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writes:i dont really know where to start, I have a very complicated relationship with my best male friend. We are so close and speak to each other evernight on the phone usually for an hour maybe even two or three hours at a time. Since the summer ive had deeper feelings for him, which we've talked about. But nothings come of it. But lately ive found it hard to talk to him, we dont really have much to talk about and it feels like the spice has gone from our friendship. What can I do to get it back?! I cant face not being close to him, even if it is just in a friendship. He's one of the few things keeping me going and i dont want our relationship to change, help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Zim +, writes (19 November 2006):
 Hmmm, this is a difficult one. I think the problem might stem from the fact that you are uncomfortable that he doesn't reciprocate your feelings and he might be concerned that your friendship might be affected by this. I can understand it is a very complicated situation. The only thing I can suggest is to bury your feelings for now. The analogy I like to use is to keep your feelings for him locked in a door to which only you have the key. He knows your feelings for him and if he changes his mind, he will ask you about your. For now, I think that just talking in relaxed manner will help you loads. I think its the fear of losing him that is making you worry about what you say to him. You two seem to get along fine when you are both just relaxing.
I hope this helps and I hope things work out between you two. If you have anymore problems, post again and we'll help you.
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