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writes:Okay, so I like this boy that I do theater with in my town. We're friends and don't go to the same school, but I really fancy him. I want to send him a card for his birthday, but I'm not sure if this is strange. Also, I want to instant message him but I'm not sure if he knows my screen name or if he knows I have his...What should I do? Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): You've nothing to loose by sending him the card. You kno him thro theater so thats a start. If your talking to him before his b/day ask him has he any plans or how is he celebrating it??
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Sending birthday cards to a friend is normal .You want him to know that you think of him and care about him as a friend.He will know you are interested in him because not many girls will care to send cards to him if they are just platonic friends. LOL!
Ask him about IM and what is his screen name or give him yours.
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reader, Kawika  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 I vote...send him the card. I think guys nowadays appreciate girls being a little assertive. That is, if he is decent. How many girls do you think will be sending him a birthday card. I can tell you now...probably no one. You would definitely stand out of the crowd. Just write him something short and sweet, but not desperate. If he is as good as you think he is...he would definitely be flattered and it may even touch his heart in places you've never imagined. This could definitely open doors for you. As for the instant messaging, I would hold off on that for a while. See what kind of response you get on the birthday card first. You don't want to freak him out.
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reader, LoveMyadvice +, writes (13 February 2008):
Dear Girl,
Do you guys hang out? On what level would you consider your friendship with this young man. If I were you, I'd IM him before you send a card. I would be very casual about it, and when you do just start out by saying "hey there" see if he replies. If he says something like, "who's this" well, that's when you start out by letting him know who you are. Try and feel it out, if he carries on and asks you questions and the IM goes back and forth, things will fall into place and sending a card won't even be in your mind anymore. Because if you send him a card, and he doesn't reply or say thank you, then you will still be unclear about how he feels, this way, you can IM and know right then.
Good Luck
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