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*ifteen
writes:hey well im kind of involved with this guy.. were friends with benefits i guess and welove eachother. the thing is i dont get to see him alot. i want to sneak out to his house tonight( its in walking distance) just to see him. seriously im so sad and lonely and all i want is to be held by him and know everything is okay. hes the only one i trust. im just scared of getting caught by my parents... any tips? help me please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): Well that's a relief. Don't go sneaking out of your bedroom at night, your parents won't respect you, you will lose there trust and if they are smart your priviledges.
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reader, Fifteen +, writes (13 July 2009):
Fifteen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone but I guess I should've been more specific... were like dating its just not official yet. We're not having sex or anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): Yeah, stay in your room. Friends with benefits is not something any self-respecting girl would be with a boy, especially one as young as you are.
This boy does not love you, being friends with benefits means he is using you for physical gratification and you are about as handy as his shirt pocket, you will even walk over to his house and deliver. What a great deal for him, what a bad deal for you because you being a girl are bonding to him only because that is how girls are wired, we bond with guys we have sex with.
Guess what, it doesn't work that way with boys, he won't bond with you at all, sex does not make a boy fall in love. A boy will say and pretend to be in love to be in your pants, especially boys his age.
You need to obey your parents rules of the house. As you wrote this 2 hours ago, you may already be on the run.
You will learn this lesson the hard way I am afraid and you will end up embarassed and hurt when he disrespects you later on and wants nothing to do with you.
You do not have to be sexual with a boy who really likes you, he will be happy just to be in your prescence.
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (13 July 2009):
If you don't want to get in trouble then you probably shouldn't sneak out at all. Maybe save the hold for another time when you can see each other without sneaking out. Could you meet somewhere in the day or something?
Also, just as a side note, people in love with each other generally wouldn't describe themselves as "friends with benefits" so be careful as maybe he isn't as in love as you are.
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reader, angelsrock18 +, writes (13 July 2009):
 i would talk to him and meet up some where, don't get in trouble/
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