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writes:I am 18, a sophomore in college and STILL a damn virgin. All my friends have lost their virginity, this is effing ridiculous. I am wanting to just go out and find some random guy... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Find a guy you like and just be straight forward with him, it will make it way easier for both of you and there wont be any wondering about what the other person is thinking if yoru just straight up and tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): I lost mine at age 23 - almost 24. Yes, I felt a little left out because many of my friends had lost theirs at 18; or younger. But I'll tell you; it was well worth the wait. We were in love, we were comfortable with one another, and he made me feel so special before, during and after. I would encourage you to wait for someone whom you care about, and who cares about you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 October 2007):
 Friend Tom is really your friend. Listen to him.
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reader, Yogichickk +, writes (21 October 2007):
 I lost it when I was 20 with a guy I was madly in love with. He was very mature and skillful. He made it magical for me. He was a true gentleman too.
My cousin lost it with a guy who had sex with her just because she was virgin.
My friend lost it on a toilet seat in somebody's dorm room with a guy she did not know well.
First impressions are important.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (21 October 2007):
 Great thread. Look sister you are still pure on the inside. You may be frustrated right now, but your time will come when you get it. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at age 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): This isn't a query to help you, but the question that comes to mind is: "Why?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Don't just find some random guy, especially not for your first time. You will come to regret it later. There is no hurry at age 18. Sure, some people start at age 13, but others don't until 21, 22 or later. Wait until you find someone that you can feel close to, then do it whenever you feel right about it. That might be your 1st date, 2nd or 10th. Wait until there is at least some attraction there.
Even after my wife's divorce at age 30, she picked up a random guy a couple of times. Even though it is 30 years later, she still regrets doing it and they were not even her first sex partners. Please wait until you find someone that will not just treat you like a piece of meat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Well, anon, you do seem 'unhappy'....But I am wondering why you are so concerned with "losing it". Are you really that "racked with desire"(?) I suspect you gave your reason when you said, "all my friends have lost their virginity". Well, maybe..so they say. And maybe not. But do you look at it as a contest of some kind? Pardon me, hon, but you sound a lot like guys your age when I was more or less the same. To be a "virgin" at eighteen was considered a mark of shame. Cupid only knows why. If you were, you were ashamed to admit it. So you invented stories. Some of the stories were so ridiculous nobody could believe them, but everyone pretended to. Their own stories were not much better. I just want to say that because 'everyone' else has said they have "lost it" is no reason for you to. In fact, it is a pretty shabby reason. If you think about it, you will agree. Sex is a very special thing between two people(or should be). If you start cheapening it this early in your life, you may never appreciate what it can be. Think carefully and make your decision on more mature grounds. Take care, Tom
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