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writes: So things are going really great with my girlfriend. We've been dating 3 1/2 months and love each other. During that time, a good friend of her's confessed that he has liked her for a long time, even before she met me. Later he kind of recanted, saying that he liked her but that things probably wouldn't work even if she was single. I've met the dude and I trust him. So now to the question part. In the beginning of our relationship, this same friend invited her to a concert that is still coming up. At the time I was fine with it. I still am now, in terms of the 2 of them because I trust both of them. But now I kind of want to go b/c I have found myself liking the band and haven't been to a concert for about 10 months. Yet I don't want to just go b/c then it'll turn into a date for me and my gf and the friend will become a third wheel. My question is: should I bring up that I want to go to the concert? and if so, do I bring it up to my girlfriend or to the guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAfter talking with a friend of mine. I've decided to at least bring things up with her. Thanks for the replies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, I can see how that's what I should do. It just seems hard b/c we are in a distance relationship and they both are coming up near me to see the concert. And the band is Goo Goo dolls. I'd really like to see it with her b/c it's them.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 I totally agree with Beckto, if you mention wanting to go that will put the doubt in their minds that you do not trust them together on their own.
There will be other concerts.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Beckto  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 I wouldn't go. There will be other concerts, and if you trust them both, which it sounds like you do, then there's nothing to worry about.
If you go, she will feel awkward, he will feel awkward and so will you. So, save everyone the awkwardness and find something else to do for the evening. When it's awkward it's not fun.
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