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writes:How do i escape the friendship zone and get my girl?!?!?!?!? I think that this girl i like just considers me a friend how can i change that?advice is most welcome kind people! Reply to this Question
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (7 February 2010):
 You should talk to her.
It may sound scary considering you don't know if she will feel the same way, but it's the only way you will actually know once and for all.
You also have to make sure your friendship with one another isn't affected by you asking her or the answer she replies with - if you want to remain friends with her if the answer isn't what you wanted.
However, if the answer isn't what you wanted then leave her be. You can still keep in contact if you wish to still be friends however, don't push her. If you push her then she'll just pull further away. I have seen it happen where guys have pushed my friends and they get sick of it, that's not what you want to do.
So, talk to her (in person) and see how she feels. It's the only way you will get your answer.
Hope this helps,
Good Luck x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 February 2010):
Simple.
Stop being her friend, then she won't see you as one.
You just have to tell her that you really like her and if she's not interested then you have to stop talking to her for a while and take some space and time to get over her.
Tell her you want to be her friend but you can't while all you think about is how beautiful she is and how much it would kill you to see her with anyone else.
Tell her that you really hope she changes her mind and that if she wants to give being your girlfriend a try then she should ring you.... But if not she needs to leave you alone and you will get back in touch with her when you are ready to be friends and no more.
Then cut contact. If she calls, ask her if this means she'll go out on a date with you, if she says no then tell her you're not over her and it's just making it harder to hear her voice.
Once she sees what she's missing then she may call you up. If not then you can actually get over her so it's fine.
You'll never get her by hanging round being nice and cuddly because then she already has all the good stuff, so why should she change things?
Good Luck!! xx
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