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writes:high school is the time when I want to experience my first love. I want to feel these new feelings. Having my first kiss is something I want to experience with my bf in high school. I know it shouldn’t be rushed. I feel im ready and excited about it. are there are some things i can do to get a kiss from my bf? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2022): I married my husband at 27 and he was my first boyfriend whom I met when I was 24. I am happy that I waited. Girls these days are in too much of a hurry to have sex with boys who they later find out do not care for them and only wanted to use them for sex. My parents always told me to wait until marriage and that way you will know for sure a man is not going to use you and then turn around and have sex with your friends, and other girls and never marry you. It will hurt badly. So to save yourself the heartache for rushing into a relationship you are much too young to be involved in, it is probably best that logic and reason prevail, not little girl fantasies based on romance novels, romantic movies, the boasting of equally naive friends of similar age, or hormones. You have your whole life ahead. Don't get pregnant or get std's or be used. Boys at your age are not interested in long term relationships or romantic first kisses or first love. They will say or do anything to make you think they are so that they can get into your pants, and then leave you feeling like a used up prostitute. Much too much pain for sensitive hearts. You are not ready for any of this. If you try, you will remember my post and see that I am right. It is hard to find a good man these days and searching for good men amongst boys is an even harder task. Next to impossible even. Just trying to open your eyes sweetie. You are young and naive. I have lived a lot of life and I can advise you from experience. I hope you focus on school and your career and make something of yourself so that you can be in charge of your own life and do not need a man to take care of you or make you feel worthy. Work harder on yourself and build your self esteem. You have so much more to offer the world. To focus so much on boys is not healthy. It would be a big mistake to become the sex toy of little boys who are consumed by hormones and not mature enough to care about your feelings. Stop living in a fantasy world sweetie. Life is not a romance novel that is played out by the script in your head.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (27 January 2022):
 " are there are some things i can do. . . ?"
Continuous affirmative consent.
Look it up and learn about it.
Physical intimacy, is best when it is initiated in a solid relationship of emotional trust. This means talking, and sharing and talking some more. Oh and whatever romance fiction you are reading / viewing, From little mermaid all the way down to harlequin romance, Don't believe any of it.
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reader, QueenCupcake  +, writes (27 January 2022):
 You might be excited about it, but honestly, you’ll have the best result if you let it happen at its own time. Otherwise it’ll just be awkward and weird.
Why not try doing something romantic? Like a romantic date at the park, or the beach, or a movie? And if it feels right, just lean in and tilt your head and see if he picks up on it. Or if you guys are cuddling, look up into his eyes and then tilt your head and lean in
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