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writes:I've been seeing someone for two weeks now..im not sure whther we are officially in a relationship though. the problem that i have is that i feel extremely insecure. i have acne so im very self conscious about the way i look and i feel i'll never be attractive to him.i usually use quite a bit of coverup and today he's asked me to not wear any makeup. i dont know what to do, my insecurities are getting the best of me and i want to tell him i cant see him anymore but i really like him.im afraid he'll think i'm too ugly for him. help..what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): use the cover up but nothing else. Although im sure he's acute enough to notice that you have spots, you can see through coverup you realise, and he still likes you even though he knows, thus stop being so insecure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Here's a link about a woman who felt exactly like you did. Spots are nothing big, I got them and nobody seems to mind, except me. Remember to him you are beautiful. Your one of a kind and unique. He dosen't really understand why you would feel ugly, to him your beautiful and just right for him.
Don't let your insecurities spoil your relationship. Your good enough for him, that's why he wants to be with you, he prefers you to other girls. Men like women for all different reasons, beauty, personality, sense of humour. You make a great package called girlfriend, and a little couple of spots isn't gonna bother him at all. If the acne is really bad, then you must go to the doctor, they are brilliant at clearing them up, and sometimes acne can be an indication of unbalanced with your hormones. But then again it could be your age, please visit your doctors and have a word with them.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-deal-with-a-husband-i.html
Don't be shallow, looks are not everything. Don't dump this guy cause you think he's too good looking. Beautiful people can be lonely and want love too. Not all beautiful people cheat, to him your everything he wants in a girl, that's why he doesn't really understand the makeup. He's proud of you, he likes the way you look, now if you could just be as proud as he is, then your confidence will shoot right up. Start to see yourself through your boyfriends eyes rather than looking listening to your own over critical assessment of yourself. He wouldn't want to be with you if he didn't find you attractive and he wouldn't ask you to take off the makeup.
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reader, secondend guessing love  +, writes (24 December 2008):
 well i have acne to and i have been dating a guy for 4 month and i think you should be honest with guy and not were make up and if dont like you for who you are under the make up then just put your hook back in the water and fish for anther gut
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Noted, thanks for the advice bugs.... I'll get back to you and tell you if it worked..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): I forgot to add that you are supposed to use fresh tomato juice and not tinned tomato juice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): As AskOlderSis says a guy who dictates what to wear or what not to wear is not good news.He is so boring.Forget about being controlling.
Now in order for you to feel beautiful about yourself not for any one else:
Acne is so easy to cure.
Make sure your head doesn't secrete too much of oil.Keep your hair clean of oil and dandruff.Half the acne problems are due to hair.
It may be due to your hormone levels as well.
Tomato juice is the biggest cure for acne.
Apply tomato juice on your face.Let it dry for 20 minutes.Do not talk to anyone while it is on.As the skin dries and you try to talk,it leads to wrinkles.
Meditate in that time.Think about a scenery that's calm and relaxing.
Wash it off with dried orange peels powder or Plain hot water.Then close the pores on your face with a splash of cold water.
Always sleep with a clean face devoid of any make up.
Merry Christmas.
Please remember no woman is ugly.Every woman has her own brand of beauty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Hes with you for a reason and from what you've given us, its not because of your looks. he probably likes you just the way you are. i suggest you dont leave this guy because you might regret it. he probably thinks your beautiful in the inside and if he doesnt want you to wear make up, then dont, you probably look better without it anyways.
hope this helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): I agree with pvtguy. Give him a chance. You dont know what he is like. Good luck :)
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reader, damaged heart  +, writes (23 December 2008):
you are not ugly!!! dont say that!!!
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