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writes:Hi Dear cupid,I'm a 16-year old, going to be 17 in a few weeks, and I fell in love with a 16-year old girl in school awhile back. I told her, and she took it fine, and she loves me back, but because of (now currently fixed) family issues, I had to move almost 400 miles away from her and my old school. After I graduate, I want to be with her because I know that she is the one for me, but I haven't told her that yet. Do you have any advice on what I should do? I won't ever find one better than her.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 You sound like a lovely young man, and I'm sure she does care about you. My advice is to stay in contact with her as I'm sure you're doing, tell her that you care about her very deeply, but I wouldn't scare her too much by telling her she's 'the one' for you.
What are your plans for school or work in the future? You can talk about those with her and let her know you'd like to live closer to her when you can. She can share her plans for her future with you too, so maybe you can both figure out a way to be together, if that's what she wants too.
You still have your whole life in front of you, so don't cut off opportunities for your own personal growth and schooling and work just for her. That wouldn't be fair to either of you, you know, it would put a lot of pressure on her to make decisions based on your feelings. She may have ideas of her own about how she wants her life to turn out, and I hate to dash any hopes you have, but it may be possible that she doesn't feel as strongly about your relationship as you do. Just be sure to be as objective as you can be about this, so you don't make decisions based on a lop-sided relationship.
Love is a wonderful emotion and should be cherished and nurtured and I think you're going to be just fine, as you sound like a wise young man.
All the best!
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reader, 123emma  +, writes (28 May 2008):
Are you dating her? She might feel the same way at the moment but I think you will have to maintain a long distance relationship or she may end up giving up and finding another guy. You may go all that way to be with her to see shes found someone else. If you are totally convinced she is the girl for you, you should tell her of your feelings and take it from there and make the effort to see her as often as you can, maybe stay for a week or whatever. Hope that helps x
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