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writes:To make a long story short, So There is this really cute girl in my art class and she sits at the same table as me i see her everyday and i even got her at lunch time but i go sit with her because shes always with her friends and i don't want seem like a dark stranger, i want to get her when shes alone to approach her but shes always talking to someone, But anyways we casually lock eyes every once in a while, and the school year has just started, No i don't like her because shes cute either, Her voice is so beautiful and so is her eyes but the problem is i haven't really ever had a conversation with her and the thing is i don't really know how to approach her and even if we do get to know each other how long should i wait to start flirting and showing her i like her? lets say a month,Etc. I don't want to wait too long and end up with her getting thoughts in her head that i don't like her and then she ends up running into the arms of another guy, But i haven't asked her is she single yet, that's the thing i'm worried about? what should i do if shes taken? I don't know should i keep talking to her or what but if shes single how should i approach her and how long should i wait to start telling her i like her?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 August 2013):
 Toonz, if you want her to take you seriously, you need to remember that her friends will give her their opinions about you. So do not ignore her friends. Look upon her friends as your allies in getting to know her. Start to make friends with them.
The time to start flirting with her is today. As long as you are good at flirting. If you aren't all that skilled at flirting then maybe consider just having a regular conversation with her about things that you are passionate about. Don't forget to actually learn things about her, just swooning over her beautiful voice won't get you far, so you have to actively listen to her, okay?
And just to remind you about something. You're avoiding her when she's with someone, but she's never alone. That tells me she's an extrovert. If you are an introvert then you need to figure out a way to go up to more than one person and start a conversation.
Is she in this class with a friend or friends? Start to talk to them all as you leave the classroom, get included in the group, go sit down with them at lunch.
One thing that always put me off a guy was if he felt like a loner, if he was too intense and if he couldn't relax enough to just hang out with people. It was a plus in his column if my friends thought he was cute or smart or funny or any combination of those.
Let's work on you actually having a conversation, either solo or in a group, with her before you start to worry about the next steps. You are out ahead of yourself a bit, I think.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 August 2013):
 Toonz: Take it from me.... a guy whose head-board is badly weakened from all the notches that I've made in it...
Take this girl aside, some time, and say to her: "Hey, pretty lady, I couldn't help noticing that you are about the most blisterin' hot woman in this class... if not on the entire campus. AND, as it happens, I've been trying to find just such a delightful and delicious specimen to join me in furthering the human race by adding a few new members. Any chance that you've been thinking along these same lines, and would like to spend the next, say, 20 years or so fledging our brood?"
That is certain to get her attention. I GUARANTEE IT!!!!
Good luck......
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