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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have a relationship with a man that is very concentrated to his work and he is occupied the most of his time. Sometimes he asks me to help him and i always feel happy to help him. However he asks me easy things and it isn't really very difficult to offer him what he asks from me. In addition i feel happy that i can help him and i feel important when he asks me my help. However i feel very insecure when i help him. He is an important member in the company where he works and accepts high recognition from others. I feel that he will leave me and i lose him if he takes higher responsibilities in his job. I want him to ask me spending more time together but i don't know how to claim this without appearing demanding and threatening. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Spending more time together is not an unreasonable ask. I have a feeling his way of doing that is by asking your help with his work, perhaps its the only way he feels he can involve you when he is so busy.To be honest, you dont have an issue here, just ask. he loves you enough to care about involving you and I am sure he is a reasonable person, perhaps you could try setting a day or two a week where work is forbidden. Im sure he craves that time with you as much as you do with him. The longer it is not mentioned, the longer you are both missing out on quality time together.
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