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writes:Just some advice needed really. There's a lad I really like and he likes me, we are very attracted to each other but neither of us are in the right place to have a relationship with each other. We went to Paris a few weeks back with each other to watch some football and to look around the City, we got on so well and we've become very close, good friends after this. Whilst we were there we got initmate and there is definitely a feeling of unfinished business now we are back. We live about an hour away from each other. Whenever we meet up we flirt like mad, whilst trying to keep it underwraps from all our other friends..only a couple of our friends know about how close we actually are. The problem is I think I'm falling for him, we are going to have a night together in a few weeks and he kind of mentioned when he was drunk that it would be a one off but how can you switch your attraction off like that? Is there anything I can say or do to 'make' him still want me? Without making myself look an idiot or ruining the friendship we have. Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): The truth is..you cant change someone and make them have feelings for you. Move on and find someone that actually wants to be with you..thats the least you deserve.
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reader, Kitekat +, writes (17 March 2009):
Kitekat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, the thing is we've already had that one night (plus 3 nights together in paris) and now he wants more. I wasn't 100% sure what he was saying on Saturday and he'd only had a few drinks - not as many as I had so I could've misunderstood what he meant.
I'm not sticking my head in the sand here, I know there's more to it with him than just sex by the way he is with me. I guess I'm just looking for a way to keep him more interested. I understand I am probably mugging myself but I like him very much.
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reader, Kitekat +, writes (17 March 2009):
Kitekat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, the thing is we've already had that one night (plus 3 nights together in paris) and now he wants more. I wasn't 100% sure what he was saying on Saturday and he'd only had a few drinks - not as many as I had so I could've misunderstood what he meant.
I'm not sticking my head in the sand here, I know there's more to it with him than just sex by the way he is with me. I guess I'm just looking for a way to keep him more interested. I understand I am probably mugging myself but I like him very much.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (17 March 2009):
 Well they do say the truth comes out when your drunk maybe the reason he has been getting so friendly with you is because he has been trying to get you to get into bed with him.i mean in previous experience i've had alot of rubbish said to me from guys and it's all bull!!they tell you what you want to hear and try and get what they want in life and from you. the thing is there is nothing you can do to make him want you because seems like he is set on just having you for one night and moving on as you said your both not really ready for a relationship so maybe he is just looking for harmless fun and maybe he thinks your doing the same that is why he wants a one night stand and maybe that's why he is flirting with you as well because he sees nothing of it as he probably isn't expecting you to fall for him as he thinks your in it for the same he is just harmless fun.i hope this helps.
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