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writes:i have been married for 36 year my wife left me 5 years ago for someone she meet on the internet after a lot of crap i did settlement and tryed to get on with my life, it didnot work out for her i think and when we meet i took her back i love her but now it like i can not do anything right sex is nil and i an expedited to do everything re affection
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Hi
sounds like she is resentful and is using you as her whipping boy? sad to hear it did'nt work out for her! BUT did it work out for YOU? love can be habbit fear of the unknown, try once more. romance her again like when you first met, be strong, if she still treats you bad tell her to sling her hook and you go out get yourself another chick start again, when the fruit of the tree has gone!!!!
try and remain freinds who knows this might just bring you both back together again...but life is too short to be treated with no love and respect.
GO DANCING MEET NEW WOMEN, GO ON HOLIDAYS, DO WHAT YOU NEVER HAVE BEFORE, DO WHAT SHE NEVER ALLOWED YOU TO DO,BE TRUE TO YOURSELF, BE ADVENTUROUS..IF SHE DOES NOT WANT TO BE PART OF THIS THEN LET HER GET ON WITH HER MOODY WAYS AND YOU GO LIVE YOUR LIFE AND HAVE FUN...BUY A BOAT,BUY A CAMPER VAN..GO MOUNTAIN CLIMBING LEARN TO PLAY A MUSICAL INSTRUMENT...FALL IN LOVE! THE WORLD IS STILL YOUR OYSTER
IT'S WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT THAT WILL CHANGE THE STATUS QUO.
GOOD LUCK! HAVE A BLAST!NEVER LET ANYBODY ELSE BLAME OR MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY OR BAD...BUT IF POSSIBLE GIVE HER THE CHOICE TO JOIN YOU IN A NEW WAY OF LIFE MAYBE THIS IS WHAT SHE WAS SECRETLY LOOKING FOR WHEN SHE LEFT LAST TIME????
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): I suggest the two of you should "take stock" of your situation; have a good talk; there seems to be some unresolved issues from the past;
I suggest that,should after a good talk, you both decide that you want to make things work between the two of you; you should go for COUNSELLING to work through your problems;
I personally cannot see things working if you are going to try continue on this basis;
Best wishes
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reader, eddie  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Since we don't know the damage that was done to your relationship before she left, it's hard to know what resentment she holds. Having said that, she did the ultimate dirty deed and came to regret it. It seems though that not much has changed at home. That leads me to believe that you haven't done the work, as a couple, to fix the initial issue.
People can change. It happens all the time. In order to change though you need to understand what caused the poor choices in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): I think you should not have taken her back either. It was easier for her when things fell through with her other relationship but maybe you could have started by just 'dating' again - to see how things went. You could still try this approach by asking her to move out and perhaps quite literally start from scratch. This way she is not using you for the practical side of things and you can more clearly see if she is willing to put the emotion back in. If not then it might inspire you that you can date other women too. I think you have done this for love and kindness - admirable and you are a decent man but it has not got the result you deserve - try a different approach. She is the one that should be doing the running. I would make her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): I'd guess there must have been some problems in your marriage in the first place if she went off with someone else. She found out that the grass wasn't greener the other side of the fence so she came crawling back to you. It would seem that the original problems still exist so you need to get to the bottom of what those problems are and sort them out if you can.
If that's not possible, then I'm afraid I don't give much hope for your long term future with her. Should that be the case, perhaps it would be better for you both to go your separate ways and leave the misery behind to start anew. I know it's difficult to part from the one you love, but if that love isn't returned there's not much future in the relationship. A happy relationship was never a one-way street.
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reader, tumble  +, writes (6 July 2008):
Have you tried to talk to her? Try to be open and listen to how she feels about it and it might bring you closer.
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