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writes:Will guys avoid pursuing a long-term relationship with me (even though I'm gorgeous, smart, sweet) b/c I'm 32 yet still live at home (since I keep switching careers)? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Hi
I would loose the words LONGTERM, this will scare them off before you even start, why not just enjoy the MOMENT if it ends up long term thats great but if short and sweet, at least you had fun. If you think LONGTERM you are actually threatening to jail somebody..example you change careers often, what if the first job you walk into your employer says ( right thats it its forever) i guess you may feel a little trapped???? regards living at home if it works well for all whats the prob? get a mobile home if you don't want to settle in one place you can even change your neighbours? have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Yes that will put SOME guys off.
Being with someone who isnt sure of what they want out of life or where they are going is often something associated with younger and immature people such as teens and early 20s etc...
When people get to tge age of 30 they want something more, they want someone who is mature and knows where they are in life and most importantly they want stability.
I think its fair to say that alot of older people around your age want that in life, so finding someone who wont be put off at where you are currently may be hard. But of course there are people who wont want that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): I don't quite see the correlation between still living at home changing careers and relationships, however, I know exactly how you feel and you shouldn't be concerned.
I'm rather older than you, still live at home and it's never had any adverse effect on any of my long-term relationships. The only difference between us other than my age is that I'm tall, dark and handsome with a terrific sense of humour.
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reader, xmariaxshaukatx  +, writes (6 July 2008):
No honey it won't not if a guy truely loves you.It may seem like a dilemma but dont worry thigs will brighten up you'll see.Most guys can be fussy but if a guy truely loves you he will want you to be happy.Remember if a guy is picky and is put off he isn't worth it.
All the best babes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): I guess some guys might be picky and judgmental. But I think it mostly depends on you. I mean if you are super confident and cool and act like you don't have a chip on your shoulder about it and act confident that you know you are going to be in bigger better places soon, then I am sure you could convince anybody that your arrangement is not all that bad and that you are in fact super ambitious. How people percieve you really depends alot on how you feel about yourself. So just be confident about your situation.But if your attitude is "oh I live at home and I don't see this situation changing for a while." That might put some guys off. And I'll tell you what WILL put some guys off. If two years down the road you STILL have not gotten out of this situation. But like I said only SOME guys. A guy who has the same arrangement as you probably will not mind at all. So it really depends what kind of guy you want to meet.If you are looking for a real "catch," I suggest you find a career first and maybe your own place.
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reader, tumble  +, writes (6 July 2008):
Guys are attracted to who you are. If your smart and confident about who you are then they will love that.I dont think its so unusual that your still at home. This should give you more leway to go out and meet new people. If you find someone you really like give it time and you never know you could be moving in with them !
Good Luck!
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