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writes:Hey all I just wanted to ask for advice on what to do on my situation.So I've been seeing this girl for more than three years now and we've talked ever since we've met. We've met online on an mmorpg and we're been communicating since we've met such as messenger, phone, webcam, xbox live, pretty much any chance that I can seem to get x]. The only problem between us is our distance since I live in Japan overseas and she lives in Alaska. So I had in mind the distance part and she also recently broke up with her boyfriend. I think it was bad timing when I did what was next. I believe it has only been less than a week since they broke up. Btw they had a long distance relationship so yeah.Anyways so today...I finally had the guts to tell the girl I like how I feel towards her. It took me a while but I found a way and it was awkward at first. She never came up with a full answer of how she felt towards me but I asked her if she would ever go out with me. So she told me that she doesn't know and that "Maybe when we meet up, i'll let you know. d:". Which I'm worried about because I don't know when we'll ever meet up but I hope for that to come one day. I don't know what to do for now because I feel like I rushed telling her. but what's done is done and so I'm here now thinking about the possibilities like if she would ever go out with someone else and such. Even though I told her that I would be there for her as hard as that may be sometimes. But yeah I'm kinda confused on what to do now, should I keep going on my pursuit in starting a relationship with her someday, even meet up with her someday even though shes so far? Do you think I'll have a chance with her cause I don't really know now with the unsure answers she gave me. She told me that she wouldn't act awkward after the situation and she really hasn't and neither have I.Even so please help me out here guys! I just like her so much and I wanna be with her. _
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): Hmm... I think the timing may have been a little off, but I think it's a reasonable answer. I'd find it very hard to be in a relationship with someone without meeting them first. It seems to me like she's saying she can't promise you anything until you do meet. The fact that she just broke up with a guy who she was in a LDR with doesn't exactly help, either! I would say, if you truly want to make something happen, and she definately does want to meet you, then you should meet up and see how it goes. Oh, wait, I've just seen your age bracket, perhaps you should wait until you're both 18 (if she is underage aswell) as you do have to have parents permission, (I think, correct me of I'm wrong) and what are the chances of them letting you fly off to Alaska? Wait until you are older and can afford to travel, in the mean time, enjoy your life and continue to talk to her. If you both feel the same way in a few years time then I'm sure you'll find a way to meet.
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reader, mossy  +, writes (18 July 2009):
heyi read your questionim concerned the way she said "maybe when we meet up ill let you know"..... its just odd way to express what she was feeling.the distance is an issue and i think you should take it into more account then you already have.she already told you that she broke up with a guy because of it...however you had a right to tell her how you felt and that took courage im just not getting the vibe from your message that she hasnt the same feelings as you.. maybe friends could be the best option..
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