I thought we were so happy but she wants to end things!

A male age , anonymous writes:

I have been in a relationship for 4 months with the women of my dreams. We both have been hurt by our spouses. My wife passed away 9 months ago. We started seeing each other 4 months ago. We hit it off completely physically and emotionally. We have never even had one cross word. We had been talking about the possibility of a future together. She told me I completed her and that I gave her balance. We are in a little different place. I am a couple years away from retirement and she has 6 years left. I am in the process of selling my home and finding a new place to live. Am also planning to start a new career when I retire. Would like to enter public service in the field of politics. Right now I am still working for the insurance. I have left my life long career. She is a teacher and is trying to move into administration. She is extremely task oriented and is a very busy women. My wife also shared a similar passion and I know how to give space for this type of women. Until about 1 week ago we were progressing. Then she decided that we did not have a future because she could not give up the independence she had grown to enjoy. This happened suddenly. the only difference was that I had a health scare with chest pains. It was a scare but turned out ok. She has known I have some health issues and she does to so I did not think it was an issue. Where we are is that we are split up. I have asked her to think about it for 30 days before finalizing her thought. I forgot to add that she had been married for 25 years to a cheater. She was the last one to know and was hurt very badly. She has only one other relationship since divorcing 8 years ago and that ended when she decided after he questioned what was going on with her son. They also did not have anything in common intelectually of politically. we share the same values. We already completed each others sentences. I treated her like a queeen and she loved it. she loved our relationship and communication. She told me that almost every day. Any ideas. Is there anything I can do to try to salvaage this relationship. I think she is just afraid. I was not pressuring her to make a life long commitment but only be open to the possibility. We have only been together for four months. Any ideas

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