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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Lately I've been developing a crush on my teacher, which I sense is something more genuine than an infatuation. I think he likes me. We've conversated about books and music and just everyday things. There is a connection between us, if you understand what I mean. We always have a good time with each other and I could even picture us having a relationship, doing things etc. It's not that I just find him attractive.A few weeks ago we had a really awkward moment where I was more shy than usual. I think he understood that I liked him and ever since he's been sort of avoiding me. He's always joking with his students everytime he walks past them, but he hasn't even said hello to me. It feels like he is avoiding me on purpose.Is this because he sense that I like him and that he doesn't want to get into trouble, do I repel him, or is it nothing special?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2013): He is being professional and keeping an appropriate distance from you. He may like you as a person; but he is making sure you don't see it any other way. Crushes from students can cost a teacher his/her job. It will not do the student any harm, but the educator could loose professional credibility.Professors work to earn their tenure and seek respect among their colleagues in academic circles. Inappropriate behavior around students could jeopardize all that he/she has worked for. They are always under the watchful eye of their colleagues and other students.Respect his boundaries. You are a student. Off-campus is different; but with some universities that could still mean his job. Fraternizing with students may create bias or partiality in grading. Other students may take notice, and will make an issue of it.
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