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writes:I think my sister is a control freak, i try to get on with her but she feels the need to interfer where it is not wanted, like recently. i'm getting married in feb and i was talking to her on the phone and she was trying to set up a get together with my fiance's family. His family is none of her concern and my fiance thinks she is weird. I spoke to some close friends and they also said it was wierd and that there brothers or sisters wouldn't interfer like my sister. Why does she feel the need to meet my fiance's family. its not normal is it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): Is she your older sister? I got an younger sister and very protective of her and your sister sounds it too. I don't think there's anything wrong with her wanting the two familes to meet up before a wedding! if it's just her meeting the b/f family well thats diffrent...just say no if thats the case. Gooood luck
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (24 August 2007):
 You didn't mention if she was an "older" sister or not, but her behavior sounds like it would be something an older, more protective sibling might do. I wouldn't be turned off by her concerns she's probably just looking out for you. And it's really not that uncommon when a young couple decides to get married, that the two families get together to meet and greet, in fact it would probably be a good idea because you mind as well get everyone together so they can put faces with names and get acquainted. Just consider yourself lucky to have people in your family who look out for you, and love you.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (24 August 2007):
 I don't think it is anything that unusual her wanting to meet his family, i know when my brother was due to marry i had met my sister in laws mum, dad, nans and her uncle, i think it just makes it a bit more comfortable for everyone when it comes to the big day if they have already met.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): Are you saying that your family has not met his family, yet? I don't feel your sister is requesting anything unusual, dear. It could just be the aggressive manner in which she is requesting this, that irks you. Is she an older sister? Have you two always had 'issues' in your past? Some sisters do. But you and your guy are engaged to be married in February, then the two families should meet. When there is a marriage upcoming in a family, it means a 'blending' of two families. This will mean the sharing a lot of upcoming special events, in your future if you are to marry this man. (wedding showers, planning the wedding, the birth of your children, baby showers, etc). I would think allowing the families to meet would the respectful, decent thing to do. It sounds like your sister is telling you this on behalf of your family but just not in the best way. Perhaps just reassure her, you and your fiancee are planning 'a special get together' in the near future..and let any hard feelings over this...go. Family is family. We may not always like who they are, but we still love them. And the solidarity, support and love from both your familie's will make your future marriage, an easier transition for you..
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