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30-35,
*siardo
writes:I'm in a bit of a dilemma right now... I feel that one of my co-workers has feelings for me.To start off, since I started the job, he's always been helpful and friendly with me. However lately, he's become what you could say more 'friendly' and seems to treat me a little differently than the other women I work with. For example, he tends to sit by me/near me and initiate small talk, he often will try to joke with me, I often catch him looking at me, he fidgets/acts nervous around me, and most recently as we were talking one day, he told me that I'm pretty. I do think he's a sweet guy and due to all of this happening, I've found I'm slowly beginning to develop feelings for him in turn. My question is… How should I take the "next step?" I'm a bit on the shy side, so I fear what I've been doing/how I've been reacting to him so far may be turning him off/away? How can I show him I like him, too? Any feedback/advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2014): Suggest that you have lunch together to break the ice.
He's being respectful, and not hitting on you openly at work; but giving subtle hints that he may like you.
Romance at the workplace is risky business. You don't want to misread a co-worker's intentions, and you don't want to be the topic of office-gossip. Make sure you're not breaking office policy. Larger companies discourage flirting and making advances while on company-time for liability reasons, so watch your step.
Lunchtime together at a table away from the others will give you both a little private time to chat. If you do decide to schedule a date; do that off-premises. There are always eyes and ears around you. Keep it personal. You're on company-time.
You can offer him your phone number when you feel comfortable enough to do so.
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