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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I think My boyfriend does not trust me. I live in a small town and know alot of people and am really just nice and introduce him to everyone. I love him would never cheat on him but yet he gets jealous or something even when we were out with my mother. i love him dearly and know he loves me. So what is going on did something happen to him in his past?I never have been in love and I want to be with him. What can I do.Maybe people are saying things which r not true/I am so confused and I am not functioning well.i am so upset I have taken up cigarettes which i absoultely Hate.I understand people very well this man makes absolutely No Sense to me. i am playing a guessing game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): First off, quit smoking! If you hate cigs, then stop right now, the number one killer of women in your age group is heart attack, and smoking increases your risk extremely....and it is a poor excuse to take up smoking because your boyfriend doesn't trust you.
If he is that stressful to be around, then I don't care if you have never been in love before, this guy sounds controlling and maybe even abusive, but there is not enough here that describes his actions towards you.
What is it that makes you think he doesn't trust you? What does he say, what does he do and when?
Perhaps it is you, if you feel this much panic and anxiety, you may have a problem of your own, talk to your doctor and tell him specifically how you feel and when and why and what happens when you get anxious....you may be suffering from anxiety disorder, and there are medications for that.
As far as the reasons your boyfriend doesn't trust you and all of the other questions you have, you need to be asking them of him.....Sit down with him when you can not be interrupted and tell him you are concerned he doesn't trust you and you want to get to the bottom of the matter...ask him the questions you have asked here, and then listen to him without defending yourself.
Then after you repeat back to him what he has told you to show him you understand, then tell him that you would never do anything to compromise his trust in you, and ask him if there is something more he needs from you to show you are worthy of his trust. Trust is earned. And yes, it could have been a bad experience from his past, but you are going to have to play detective here and ask him more questions.
Best of luck to you both.
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