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writes:As the topic states, I Think I Am Gay but I do not know what to do...The feelings are only sexual though.The idea of a life relationship with a man is an immediate turn off for me....but the idea of sex with a woman seems awkward to me.I'd much rather have a penis in my mouth and ass than have a vagina in my mouth or have my penis in a vagina...I'm sorry for the bluntness of the situation, but I don't know how to state this problem any other way.I'm 17 and I have never had sex with either male or female because I live in the deep south and people around here are very hostile toward homosexual anything. Having sex with a girl would be no problem around here, but as I previously stated the idea just doesn't appeal to me sexually or emotionally.I am so very confused and the pressure of this situation is really hurting me on the inside.I do not know what to do, someone help. The anonymity of the internet is the only way I can find answers to this problem. Please help.Thankyou.
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reader, antiegay67890  +, writes (24 January 2011):
When i first told myself i was gay it was difficult to actually decide but when i asked some one close it made it easier... but in your case it may be diffrent or not. Try to find the right person first and some one you can trust. antiegay67890
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): okay, well you might be bisexual. in this case, to me, it seems like you would rather maybe have both?
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reader, StevenRoss +, writes (19 July 2009):
It definately sounds like your gay, and the community your in must make it harder to accept it.
When I first accepted to myself I was gay/bi I never thought I would kiss a man or have a relationship with one, i just wanted sex etc, but now im in a relationship and i couldnt be happier it feels so right and comfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): I don't think there's any doubt at all about your true sexuality...
"I'd much rather have a penis in my mouth and ass than have a vagina in my mouth or have my penis in a vagina"..Of course you would!
As for not really wanting romantic relationships with men, that's normal too. Lots of gay guys live very active and satisfying sex lives without necessarily feeling any real romantic attachments to the men they have sex with. As long as you're honest with them and considerate of their feelings and careful about STD's, that's OK too.
It does sound like you should leave where you live when you're old enough, which will be very soon...just get the hell outta Dodge, hit the nearest big city and go man-hunting!
Best of luck xx
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (10 July 2009):
It sounds like you are probably gay. Sexual orientation is about what sex you are sexually attracted to. Whether you want or find appealing a life relationship with a man isn't really relevent. If you are attracted to men and not women then you are gay. Maybe when you are older you can move somewhere where you'd be able to live without so much prejudice. You are young so there is no hurry. Your feelings will become clearer over the next few years and as you grow into adulthood you'll work out more easily what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): You're the same as me. I'm still wondering if I'm gay or bi. I think you should just keep the fact that you're bi.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Maybe you could find some gay communities to join online that would build up your confidence with your sexual preferences.
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