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writes:Hi,Ok so here it goes........... I fancy my best mates cousin who is only a couple of months younger than me (im 19) well we all meet up for her b'day and he tried to kiss me whilst i was dancing with him, i pulled away and everything seemed fine. I then offered him a lift home and on the way back to the car and also to his house we got talking. He was telling me about how he has fancied me since he was 15 and started talking about times he had seem be about - (he even remembered what I wore for my best m8s 16th party!) Anywho I ended up sleeping with him in my car. that was in March. in June we went on holiday (there was about 10 of us). Now I really like him and Im afraid he thinks badly of me for putting myself out there so easily. Also he hasn't mentioned anymore to me about liking me. Should I try and win him over? Or should I learn from experience?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi i just wanted to say thank you for your comments. I know your both right and I think I might try and have a subtle conversation about what happened with him. So hopefully all will end up well. Thanks again x
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I think this is definitely a good lesson learnt, honey. If you give out to men too soon, they lose interest in chasing you and also lose respect for you if you continue to see each other. However, I don't think that all is lost. Maybe talking to him would help. Tell him that was very unlike you, you like him and want to start again.
As you were in your car, I hope you weren't drunk! So that will take a bit more to persuade him you're not easy. If you want to make this work, you can, if he wants to as well.
It all depends on how he sees that night and how he sees you now. As I've said, a lot of men see a girl they've already slept with as 'old territory' and want to move on. Hopefully he isn't like this and wants to make it work.
Good luck, and all I can say is use better judgement in future!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I'm sad to say you could be right. Some men have an unfortunate switch in their heads that, once they've had sex with a girl, labels her as a 'easy'. You can't win, you are attractive until you give in to the attraction, then you are no longer attractive.
However, he may not think this! I suggest you try to have an open conversation with him and ask him about it. Ask him how he feels about what happened, and how he feels about you. It's not easy to talk about this kind of stuff face to face, but it's the fastest and simplest way to find out the answers you are looking for.
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