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writes:i simply asked my freinds if you could what would you change about your self (looks wise) i said i would change a lot of things.my freinds say i was saying that to get compliments on my looks which i honestly wasnt i was asking that to see how they feel about themselfs they said i will be stunning when i am older which i think is a little over the top why do i have low self esteem if i get compliments a lot is there somthing wrong with me ?
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reader, Stupid Lullabies +, writes (13 December 2007):
I have a very similar problem. I have some serious issues with the way I look. My friends reassure me and tell me that I am attractive, but I don't believe them, because they are my friends they have to say nice things, maybe they even believe them themselves. I think the problems like these are caused by some deep-rooted self-esteem issues.There isn't anything wrong with you, modesty and gentleness are good personality traits, but a lack of self-esteem could lead to people taking advantage of you, and for me, severe depression from time to time. The only way to change things is to start trusting other peoples' opinions when they compliment you, and even if you're not happy with the way you look, appreciate that other people are, and learn to love what you feel is unique about your appearance. I would say that appearance doesn't matter, and it shouldn't but I know that our own appearance matters to us. Perhaps there is something you can do to change it, it sounds really shallow, but I go on a shopping spree and buy nice new clothes. Wearing things that I like, that fit comfortably and look good on me really does give me a confidence boost.The most important thing to remember is that, regardless of other peoples opinions, good or bad, or even your own! You are a unique, valuable and beautiful person.
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reader, esepalo1  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 You got to be happy with your self people will see your not confident about your self you dont need any one to tell you how good you look how good you smell if you belive your special and unique then belive it cause you are dont live for the world live for your self the world can be a not nice society and will break you down mind body and soul if you let it so chin up walk straight and dont let no one tell you different your special and thats that. look deep down in side and let others see the potential great person you are beautys only skin deep who you asre inside is alot powerfull then the apperance we try so hard to project as beauty to others for exceptence. so believe in your self thats all you need .
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (11 December 2007):
 nah you've just got low confidence, which can work in your favor at times to be honest.guys get intimidated by girls who act all conceited, so when they meet a pretty girl who isn't overloaded with confidence they have an easier time approaching her, since they feel like they have a better shot.excersizing is probably the best way to gain confidence, the better you look the better you feel.
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