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writes:i am in a relationship with my best friend for 3 months now,but we know each other since 5th grade.he had a crush on a grl for 5 years,but recently that girl dumped him, but she was keeping him on the hook for a long time. recently he chanced upon her fb profile where she is engaged,and it hurt him and he said me that he thought he had forgotten her but he hasnt.i had previously too stopped talking to him since i love him from a long time and coudnt bear him thinkng of her.i came back only because he said he loved me n not her.but i dont know what to do now.m hurt and disappointed. what is he thinking and what should i do? help.
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reader, TEM  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 I know it must hurt that he has been carrying a torch for someone else all these years. As he is your great love, I imagine you think she was his. It is normal for you to feel hurt under the circumstances.
His old girlfriend is going to marry someone else. It is actually a good thing that she announced her engagement. She is clearly out of reach now. He has no choice but to accept it and move on, if he hasn't already done so.
Just because he was upset by news of her engagement doesn't mean he was lying when he told you he loved you. It is really up to you to believe him or not. You must both put this woman behind you and try to enjoy the relationship you have. Things will work out in time. Have faith.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,
I think you should give your boyfriend a bit of space because it's too much for him and need time to sink in.
Like they say "you can never forget your first love" and I think that is exactly what is happening to him but I think time will do it.
Just keep him happy, make him smile and remember stick by your man! You said he's your best friend right? So at the moment I think he needs a best friend more than a girlfriend so just comfort him and you guys will get through it!
Hope my advice helps!
Good luck
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (27 March 2011):
I think u should give him space so he can figure out who he really wants. I suggest u cut all communication for the mean time. time alone wil probably mek him miss you & fall for you
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