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writes:me and my b/f have been together for almost 4 years everything was perfect until about 6 months ago. i suffer from depression and he was unsure how to handle the situation and he turned to a close friend who happens to be of the opposite sex. now that im doing better him and this close friend are now attached at the hip. he knows that it makes me uncomfortable but hasnt done much about it. we argue about her a lot and when we do he seems to always tell me afterwards that he is unhappy and he doesnt know why. he has broken up with me twice in the past 6 weeks and always seems to come running back after a few days wanting to fix it and tells me how much he loves me and he is sorry. he keeps tellin me that our relationship is never going to work because all we do is argue. im not sure what to do? i dont know if it's me or him? am i thinking too much into it? please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007): I agree with Eve. When you have true love, both people want to be together, and they both know it.
I was in love while depressed, once, too. When he broke up with me, I kept thinking that if only I had been fine when we were together, we would still have been together. But now that I'm over him, it's crossed my mind that maybe being with him actually contributed to my depression. I think it's possible.
Don't blame yourself, don't blame him. You both sounds like nice people who aren't meant to be together.
ET
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reader, melschatbox +, writes (31 January 2007):
 First loves are the hardest to break off!! They're all you know. The unfamiliar seems so scary...and you hate the thought of putting that much effort into a new guy. Well... from what you've said ..I think this relationship deserves some mental clarity. It needs a break. I won't say...break up. But, definitely a break. This opposite sex friend he has is confusing him more. If you two go on a break....she's included. The break is for each of you to decide what is most precious to each of you. Your young... do you really think this guy will be the last guy you see yourself dating? The world is a big place..hon. Full of experiences...don't stay where you're unhappy just to stay safe. Best of Luck
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reader, AmorMio +, writes (31 January 2007):
I believe that your bf is confused and he needs sometime alone atleast until he can figure out who is more important to him,you his gf or her. If he realizes that you are the person that he wants then both of you need to find a way to let him keep his friend but with some distance between them. We all need friends and they should be kept close just not to close to discomfort anyone in the relationship.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (31 January 2007):
 You are better choosing to remain friends with this guy. He's tried to break off with you on a couple of occasions then came back out of guilt then on the other hand tells you it's not going to work because you both always argue. My advice to you love...?
Let him go, set him free - it will need to come from you as he simply doesn't want to hurt you both you're both unhappy, this relationship is going nowhere. I know it's not what you want to hear but I'm being honest here. There IS someone out there who IS for you sweetie but it definitely ISN'T this guy.
Eve
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