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writes: hi, i'm a 19 year old female. I am just very confused at the moment, theres a guy who I am pretty sure likes me. He is always phoning me, the body language is very clear. However I am not sure if I like him. I am still crushing over another guy who I am sure will never return my feelings. I told the other guy about my feelings for him and this guy was visibly upset. I don't want to hurt him, because he is such a nice guy but I don't think I see him in that way. I don't really know what my question is, probably just want your opinions and clarity. I tend to go for the unttainable guys and its very foolish I know. XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2006): Pouring your heart into 'unattainable, unavailable' guys is like you are putting your life on hold. Not a happy way to live! The unattainable is pretty appealing to both sexes, men and women alike. Everyone seems to want what they think they can't have, so they can feel good, like they really achieved 'something' when they get it. I think a person has to start taking responsibility for their own happiness, by realizing that sometimes the man who is available, will always have more to give in a potential love relationship, than the man who unemotionally unattainable and simply isn't interested. We know you want a deep, loving, connected intimate relationship but I have to wonder 'why' you have the desire to connect deeply with people who don't care? And while you are waiting for some unattainable guy to be more available and more emotionally connected with you, it's like you are perpetually holding your breath... which means you are not out there, living your life, making a contribution for others, and doing what makes YOU happy. Go for the guy who wants you. You'll never regret it.
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reader, d4u04  +, writes (12 March 2006):
 darling i'm going to say to you what I told my friend who had a similar problem, make a list of pro's and con's for each of them, then throw it away and follow your heart. If it doesn't work out with the one you want there are plenty more fish in the sea.
Hope this helps x
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reader, x_pixie_x +, writes (12 March 2006):
 it's definetly not foolish hun, girls always seem to like the ones they can't have. i think you should go and find someone who will love you the way you love them. don't stick around so long that you lose chances with different guys. good luck xxxxx
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