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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for a bit over a year and a half now and ever since my brother and his gf broke up ive been really worried bout me and my boyfriend but i dont know why. We only see each other once a week because of our studies and needing to see our own friends and other things but i tend get agitated that he hardly ever texts me or calls me (we talk online everyday). WHen i bring up my worries with him he just tells me im paranoid because everything is ok and he acts normally when we are together. when we talk he still is the same. i feel like im losing him by the end of every week before i get to see him and prepare myself for that day coz i think hes gonna breka up with me..but as soon as i see him everything goes back to normal.im sick of worrying about this stuff and dont understand why i do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): You have to confront him about it, guys like to know whats going on and maybe he doesnt want to txt or call you because he feels like he will be smothering you, make sure you tell him he wont be and then watch as he will start calling you etc
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe has $200 worth of credit on his phone all the time..but he just doesnt see why he needs to text me or anything...he doesnt understand that just texting to say :im thinking of you: can mean so much to sum1 like me.
i have brought it up with him and he just said that its not that big a deal and that some people are worse off and dont get to see each other as much as we do. but he lives 10 mins away from me..but its holidays in 3 weeks so hopefully things will we better...
thanks for your help..its good to hear the guys side of things
much appreciated
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reader, Ryuk22  +, writes (24 May 2008):
 I went to University in last September. And i could only see my girlfriend all day Saturday and sleep over until sunday, and then only 5 hours on Sunday. Because i had to get back to Uni.
But my girlfriend then, she went depressed, she thought she couldn't cope anymore with us like that, and it is difficult... She used to burst down in tears and stuff because "she couldn't cope with only 1-2 days a week."
I thought she was going to break up with me, when she was so depressed, it seemed like she persuaded herself she couldn't cope... and there was NOTHING I could do to help it.
It's normal for you, wanting to speak to him more etc. I also talked to my girlfriend everyday online. And also phoned her, and text, and she still couldn't cope.
Why doesn't your boyfriend text you? does he have Pay As You Go phone, and costs too much?
I specifically bought a phone, with 750 minutes, and unlimited texts/month, to be able to keep my girlfriend...normal, and not depressed.
Im now on my 4-5 month vacation, and its awesome :D. seeing her everyday. But I think it will become VERY difficult, once i have to go back to University, and see eachother 2 days a week...
I'd ask your boyfriend why he doesn't phone or text, or if you could talk to eachother every day? If you speak to eachother online everyday, maybe both buy headsets and speakers.. and speak through a program (Skype, Ventrillo, TeamSpeak.. theres loads). Or one of you, do like what I did, buy a phone with plenty of minutes, and texts (or both).
Hope this helps.. I can't really suggest anything else, because i had the same problem, and there was nothing i could do to help it. :S
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reader, Ryuk22 +, writes (24 May 2008):
I went to University in last September. And i could only see my girlfriend all day Saturday and sleep over until sunday, and then only 5 hours on Sunday. Because i had to get back to Uni.
But my girlfriend then, she went depressed, she thought she couldn't cope anymore with us like that, and it is difficult... She used to burst down in tears and stuff because "she couldn't cope with only 1-2 days a week."
I thought she was going to break up with me, when she was so depressed, it seemed like she persuaded herself she couldn't cope... and there was NOTHING I could do to help it.
It's normal for you, wanting to speak to him more etc. I also talked to my girlfriend everyday online. And also phoned her, and text, and she still couldn't cope.
Why doesn't your boyfriend text you? does he have Pay As You Go phone, and costs too much?
I specifically bought a phone, with 750 minutes, and unlimited texts/month, to be able to keep my girlfriend...normal, and not depressed.
Im now on my 4-5 month vacation, and its awesome :D. seeing her everyday. But I think it will become VERY difficult, once i have to go back to University, and see eachother 2 days a week...
I'd ask your boyfriend why he doesn't phone or text, or if you could talk to eachother every day? If you speak to eachother online everyday, maybe both buy headsets and speakers.. and speak through a program (Skype, Ventrillo, TeamSpeak.. theres loads). Or one of you, do like what I did, buy a phone with plenty of minutes, and texts (or both).
Hope this helps.. I can't really suggest anything else, because i had the same problem, and there was nothing i could do to help it. :S
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