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writes: After our 21 year marriage ended in divorce approximately 2.5 yrs ago, I still love him and want him back in my life. We've both hurt each other deeply, he re-married quickly and has now filed for divorce, he knew he made a mistake and jumped to soon. I've had 3 relationships since then, I could have remarried but I ran instead. The first 2 were bad, embarrasing and stupid relationships, the 3rd guy was good 2 me and would have given me the moon, but it just wasnt what I wanted. That's when I realized I still loved my ex. I miss my old life of which I can never have back. He and I talk periodically he confided in me about leaving her, he and I have not been intimate but we do both know we still love each other, he says he's not sure if its love or he knows he can be comfortable with me, after all this how do i get him back? I know he needs time, his divorce isnt final, I so vulnerable and dont want to be hurt, am I wasting my life waiting on him to decide what he wants to do??...or should I get counseling squash it and move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Yeh, I am still in love with my ex. I dream about him and talk to him. He has done a lot of things to hurt me and me him. I am remarried though and have another child with my new hubby and he also adopted my child with my ex. I can't help the way I feel but there are many things that is stopping me. My kids are one of them. The other one is I have herpes. I was raped in 2002 by my neighbor and that was right before my hubby and I got married. I don't know if my husband now gave me herpes or if it was from the rape, because it didn't show up till 2 yrs after I was married to my hubby now. I don't want to give my ex herpes or anyone else for that matter so I feel stuck. I am not happy with my life the way it is and I don't know what to do....please help!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 October 2006):
 You need to think over what broke your marriage up the first time. Are any of those issues still out there? It had to be something pretty major to break up a 21 year marriage!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): Tell him how you feel and pray and undo the mistake of divorce. Go to counseling first, find a great one and put the pieces of your lives back together
good luck to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006): When you find out, please tell me. I feel the same about my ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006): When you find out, please tell me. I feel the same about my ex.
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reader, BREEZY1963 +, writes (9 May 2006):
BREEZY1963 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks carebear! He's made no effort to see me on personal basis, and I havent either. I guess I'm afraid of rejection, his divorce isnt final yet, maybe that's why, I dont know. When he talks I get mixed signals (over the phone), I'm just leaving it alone and maybe he'll make an effort one day. Thanks again!
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reader, BREEZY1963 +, writes (9 May 2006):
BREEZY1963 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your reply lillybet. He knows how I feel but I dont want him to get the impression I'm waiting either (indefinetely). I feel so confused and lost, I occupy my time working, and focusing on our grown children. I thank you again, hopefully one day I'll get past this or let someone (a good person) in my life.
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reader, carebear  +, writes (8 May 2006):
 Hey I hope it works out for you take your time be honest and ask him to be honest with you go out together have fun date again and I wish you all the best
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