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writes:Hi!Earlier this month I posted here telling you about my ex, whom talked to me online this one after nearly 7 months of no communication!We only talked for about half an hour or so and it was about "work".You told me that maybe he was just trying to make a nice conversation and that was it. I kindda had high hopes that he would talk again, surprisingly enough he did, it started when yesterday he changed his nick name into "why say hello when I can ignore" and I changed my nick name into "so what!!", 2day he started talking with me and asked bout what's "so what" then I told him some stuff are bothering me, then I found him asking about what's bothering me and he was so interested to know, I said few things then he asked what are they and then I found myself opening up and actually telling him what's bothering me...However, we didn't talk about "us" or anything of such, but the thing is I told him I was bothered with my work and that am looking for another, he said why not work with us, him and his friends are working on something and then he told me all about it...he wants to do a cartoon film.Anyways I know that he doesn't really need me for that and also he might drop the whole idea, though he wasn't saying it out of being nice cos he told me the whole story of it...Thing is am willing to help him if he would actually do such thing, but anyways, I thought it was some excuse to talk and to maybe later on meet up with this as a cause...and I kindda like that :) that he's the one who came up with something to maybe later on meet with me...I wish he'd come back to me and I keep praying for that, but I sure don't want to repeat the same mistake again, I mean he's an ex for a reason, he wouldn't commit!! I hope now things change, I know he's not back and he could drop the whole thing and simply not talk again, but I still love him, I never stopped! I just want things to go smooth and slow, and I want them to come from him, not me!What do u think?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so muchhhhhhh for all what u've said...I believe he was indeed testing the water to see if am still the same , single , same job, or what..etc. and that still indicates that he's curious about my life and hence, he's been thinkin bout me and he misses me!We haven't talked again since...but I believe sooner or later he will pop up, the worst thing is I have accepted the fact that he's gone, but then when he just pops back he sort of gives me hope!!!! what if?!!!My prob is that I alwaysssss remember the good side and I totally forget or actually neglect the pain and harm he's been doing to me...the anonymous gurl whose posted recently and u r in the same situation I couldn't get ur mail.* am glad to find someone whose feeling what am feeling too!!! so thank u!!(*Note from mod - we cannot post email addresses; please correspond with one another using pm's. Thank you.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): Hey gurly, i just randomly came across to this website and your question popped up and i have to say your situation is exactly the same as mine..its sorta freaky..my problem is me and my ex of 2 years took a break because we had, had some problems, and well he cheated on me so it sorta made things harder for me, then outta the blue i get a call saying that he met someone and wanted to see where it went with her. 3 days after we broke up he was already with her..i was devistated, i went into a serious state of depression, it was honestly the worst time of my life...we hadnt talked since november..and then around 7 months later we started talking again..he contacted me outta the blue and said he was sorry for things and wanted us to be friends..or atleast try to be. and hes been really weird lately, hes still with the same girl, but he never ever talks about her, i dunno if its just outta respect for me, or if he just has nothing exciting to say about her, and hes called me everyday for the past week, ive talked to him atleast 1-2 times every day now, and alot of the calls are just random stupid questions, and i think to myself if hes just doing it as a way of talking or hearing me talk, then he kept telling me to come up and visit him at his work and he would score me some free food,so me and my friend finally did and she said that his eyes were on me the whole time as he smirked a small smile haha...well im prob. boring you, but i just thought i would message you and tell you that i understand exactly how you feel..although he did some hurtful things in the past,i still love him more than anything, and i would do anything to get him back, but all you can do is just hope for the best, and live life to the fullest wether they continue on in your life or not. I've atleast excepted the fact that he left me, and it was more so his loss, and im sure the same goes for you and your situation, so dont give up..just remember some where out there, someone feels the same way you do, i hope everything works out for ya, and feel free to talk anytime my email address is [email address blocked]!
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reader, jabey  +, writes (17 June 2007):
i think have you been working hard on you during your time a part. Within this seven months, I like to think you have discovered more about yourself and focused on you. if not its time to start. I suggest, you sit back and look at your life, what is it about you that makes you special. whats your favourite colour ? whta music do you like? what makes you laugh ? what makes you cry ? Do you get my point.
If you focus on yourself thenyou will be ready to decide, how you wishyour friendship to continue with your ex.
It could be that he has missed you, and I presume he is testing the water, checking in, are you still there, should he come back.
If you really want him back I suggest, you become apatheic, indifferent, see him as a friend, cintinue with your life be happt with or without him, you can choose your thoughts.
then watch what happens , you become happy, independant, and if he wants you this way if you rekindle you will have a happier healtheir relationship.
Work on you, my dear and all will be well xxxx
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