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writes:In my junior year of high school I "dated" this girl for about six months. We didn't really go out but we went on dates every so often. Well I moved four hours away my Senior year and had to go to a different high school. In the meantime she got a boyfriend and they've been dating for about a year and a half. Now we go to the same college, all three of us. I became friends with her boyfriend but we're not really close. Well my feelings for her haven't gone away and it's been two years. She told me that she still has feelings for me too but I'm too scared to date her because I'm afraid that my other friends will think bad of me. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): I think that if your feelings are strong enough to last the past two years, then they can last a little longer. It seems like you really care for this girl (or even love) and I think that you need to let her relationship with her present boyfriend run it's course because if you and her are meant to be, there is no doubt that she and her boyfriend will not last. Until this does happen, then you should feel free to date other girls because I am sure her feelings for you won't change if she still has the same feelings for you (like you said) after two years. Think this through hunny, she is probably very scared. If her boyfriend is a nice guy she may be scared to make a mistake in the case that he is "the one" and won't take her back if she makes a drastic change. She most likely knows that your feelings are very strong for her and that you have waited this long for her to have a relationship and you may be willing to wait a little longer. So even though the people before me said go for it, use caution. Ok? Give her time and let her know that when she is ready you will be waiting. Because if you really do have strong feelings for her, they will still be there when she is good and ready. Best of wishes hunny. xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): well dude...i know you said that she has expressed interest in you, but I have to ask this. Do you think she is willing to leave her boyfriend for you? How is their relationship at the moment...I know the other readers have said that you need to think about your feelings for her and how important she is...but think about her feelings for you as well. Does she really love you? Can she tell you everything? What about eye contact? does she make it often? Then again, If you are friends with her boyfriend will that mess things up between you and him? Or do you not care about putting your friendship with him on the line? I could understand either of these, but that's what is important, man. Think about it. If you think she won't leave her boyfriend for you, be careful about what you say to her. Focus attention on someone else. But on the other hand, if you think that she really does love you...don't worry about friend and go for it. You may live happyily ever after.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): I know that it is hard as a guy to put aside your pride and go for it with a girl, but sometimes you don't have a choice. Like the reader before me said about losing someone, I was one of those people who didn't go for it and the girl slipped away. I regret my decision every single day. She was my best friend, I told her everything and surprisingly, she was the only person who could really "read me like a book." She always knew what was wrong. Anyway, enough about me, i just wanted to tell you that cuz after i let her go for being too scared, our friendship didn't last long and I still miss her like hell. She was MY ONE, is this girl yours?? Forget the friends...they'll get over it, but your heart won't forget.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Well this does seem like a tough situation to be in, but you have to ask yourself how much this girl really means to you. When you are together how does she make you feel? Can you picture your life with her...these type of questions are the only things that are going to lead you to your answer. Because If you can't see yourself committing to a relationship with her then it may not be worth it to break her and her boyfriend up because of those feelings. A lot of times after situations like this happen...people such as yourself end up thinking too much about what your friends will think if you date and then that girl slips away. So I guess the main thing is to ask yourself how you truly feel for HER. What does she mean to you?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Which is more important to you , your friends feelings or the girl you are interested in ?
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