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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for four months today. Over the course of these four months, we've become very close, inseperable. Constantly needing each other.But before him, I was in a year long relationship that did a lot of damage to me emotionally and I think i've brought it into my new relationship.Ulimately, I nit pick at everything my boyfriend does. Everything he does and says seems wrong to me, but he constantly tries to say I'm overreacting, trying to make me feel like I've done something wrong.Lately, I have felt this burden on my shoulders like I haven't gotten out all that needs to be said. My boyfriend is really good to me.. but sometimes I just feel like I cannot breathe. and I always have dreams that I cheat on him, and we break up.. etc. I use to have good dreams about him. Reply to this Question
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reader, soul83  +, writes (28 March 2010):
Hmmm. Well I can't provide a lot of advice about carrying baggage from previous relationships (I'm in my first serious relationship at the moment). But I have a problem of sometimes finding it hard to trust my gf. There's small things she's done that appeared suspicious (but turned out to be innocent).
My gf nit-picks me all the time and uses the excuse that she needs to 'mould' me into the perfect all-round guy/husband (yeah she's talking about marrying me in the next year or two). I'm pretty serious to her too.
But, I've also gone through a rough period of time where we were fighting a lot and she was suggesting that she's got 'lots of options of other men' and that 'I should look out if we go back to Australia together'. That stirred up my insecurity and lack of trust and I started having bad dreams of her seeing other men and me catching her flirting to other guys.
Haven't experienced dreams of cheating thankfully.
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