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*exylove5
writes:There is a boy i really like, i was at a aparty last night and i ran into him, he took me upstairs and into his friends bedroom, we started kissing and making out, and i gave him head and he tity f***ed me, we then ended up having sex, and then earlier this morning i found out that he's engadged and is getting married in june, i really like him but dont know what to do, should i tell his girlfriend what happened or noplease help me
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (19 August 2007):
Tell her. You'd want to know and it wasn't your fault. You didn't know and he took you upstairs to the room. She might not understand at first, but it will be off of your conscious and it can prevent her from making a huge mistake. She may find out on her own, because he may keep doing it when they get married. However, I wouldn't bank on that and it is much easier for her to find out now and not marry him (of course that is her choice) than it is for them to get married and then get a divorce. They obviously have problems to work through if they do get married and you could end up being the hero of this story with a clear conscience.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (19 August 2007):
 hey bbe, 2 b honest, i wudnt tell her, it is up 2 him, as he is the one hu is engaged, he wil hav 2 liv with the guilt for the rest of his life if he duznt tel her.. i hope i helped, mail me if u wana talk x xx x
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (19 August 2007):
 This is all up to you i'm afraid. The blame does not lie on you as you had no idea that he was engaged or that he was even with anybody so therefore he is the one who should be feeling ashamed. However, I think you did rush having sex with him!
If you think that his girlfriend is not going to find out from him then you should tell her if you feel it is right for her to know. Personally if it was me I would absolutely want to know that the guy I was going to spend my life with was stupid enough to have these little flings behind my back. After all why should she have to put up with a man that is cheating on her when she doesn't know.
I say tell her! If not, tell someone close to her who can let her know a little more gently. Even better if you can get him to tell his fiance what he has done thats great.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (19 August 2007):
 No i wouldnt. Chalk it up as experience. She will find out soon enough hes a snake. They always do in the end. Hopefully she will come to her sense then & not be in denial.
Thats another good reason its best to get to know someone before having sex with them.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): I think you should tell her as she deserves to know. Put it one way - would you want to know?
I would so then I wouldn't have to waste my life with him. I wouldn't recommend you start seeing him either because if he can cheat on his fiance he can cheat on you too.
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