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writes:I need help getting over my ex boyfriend. Im the one who posted the question about my boyfriend getting depressed and dumping me because he's to lazy for love and relationships and doesnt want them anymore.Last night I had a little argument/discussion/watever u want to call it with him online. I had said I missed him and he kept telling me to get over it its not going to happen bla bla bla.He doesnt realise that I cant get over it that fast. He fell into depression and lost feeling for everything and love was most definately easy for him to give up because he has no time for it and is trying to focus all his attention on school and work. He will be getting councelling btw. I cant get over him that fast, Im still in love with him and I still want him back but after last night I should come to terms with he is never going to come back.He told me right now he doesnt have anyone nor does he want anyone but in the future he doesnt know his plans but if anything does happen relationship wise its none of my business who he choses to be in his life. He is completely 100% right but it doesnt stop the pain and hurt I can feel right now.How do I get over him? All I do is cry all day and I adore music but theres so many songs that simply remind me of him or so many songs that relate to my feelings and music has always been my soothing thing and now whenever its on I just think of him =(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Well you need to let the pain out and grieve for the end of a relationship. Its a hurtful time you are heartbroken and it is going to hurt. Get your friends to support you now more than ever you are going to need them in your life. Crying is good it lets the pain out. So listening to music for some people can help and it is good to let the pain out. Its healthy to have a good cry. But obviously there comes a time where the crying has to stop and you need to pick yourself up and get on with your life.
The first step to getting over him is to accept in your heart that he is no longer a part of your life and that he never will be. You need to accept that it is time to let him go and move on. So first thing to do is if you have any pictures of his or personal items then get rid of them. Its a new start for you in life. Delete all his contact details. You need space from him and time to get used to the idea that he is no longer in your life.
You need to keep yourself busy and ensure that you do not contact him. Delete everything. Phone number, email social networking and do not contact him. Then just keep yourself busy and active. Do things you enjoy to do. Hang out with friends and have a laugh. Take up new hobbies or join new clubs. Make new friends and in time you will start to feel better I promise. The two main things is to remove him from your life and give yourself time to heal. Goodluck.
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reader, kittykins +, writes (25 April 2011):
 I know exactly how you feel, and it's a terrible feeling. I too, struggled with getting over my ex as most of my music reminded me of him, or related to my situation at the time. There's nothing much you can really do. Time is a healer as they say, and you WILL feel better in time. You will just have to be patient as getting over someone is hard. The best thing to do is to keep yourself occupied and busy with friends, or hobbies, so you're not dwelling on him all the time. I am kind of in the same boat, as my current boyfriend of 3 years suddenly claimed he no longer felt the same about me. We haven't spoken for 3 days, as he wanted us to go easy for a while. I think of him every second, much like you do with your ex. Whatever you do, DON'T start texting him. You will only be more upset if he ignores you, and you'll be checking your phone all the time. Concentrate on keeping yourself happy. When the time finally comes, you will be a stronger, wiser person for it. Chin up dear, you'll get there. x
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