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writes:My boyfriend is going overseas for work for 3 years. Should I initiate a break up?I see no point in a 3 years long distance relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): There is definately no point for a long distance relationship for that long. I was in one for 6 months until we broke it off. Thinking the break up was mutual but she was secretly seeing someone before we broke up. I got suspicious and asked her friends. I have never forgiven myself for not ending it when she went back home to the USA because we still could have been friends. And I will never forgive her for cheating on me while I was working hard to save enough money to go to America. My opinion is to break it off.You have a life to live, 3 years is just way to long.
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reader, bittersweetmemory  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 do you question yourself if you truly love this person?
do you have any doubts about him being perfect for you? or about how he feels for you?
because if you have doubts then you can break up
but my opinion is if you love someone truly than distance,difficulties and time can never tear the two of you apart
i agree with drewlover
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): Having just tried to sustain an LDR for 3 years my best advice is.... if his job means that much then you are better off splitting up. The cost of travel, the heartache and the physical distance is damaging. I am in the situation where I am going to see my boyfriend soon and although we still love each other.... I'm not sure there is much of a relationship left. When you have to live your life and all its emotional turmoil, physical pressures etc alone it can get resentful - that person is not there for you in so many ways when you often need them most. I would never put myself through it again. Just my experience of course - I hope you find peace with your decision. Its tough either way.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Good call! If the move is the only reason for the breakup, then you could always put the stipulation that if you're both single when he gets back you can give it another try.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Yes..You don't seem like you're cut out for a LDR.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Well you need to sit down and have a chat with him yes three years is a very long time and it would be very hard on you both but could you not come to an arrangement that you could visit him and he could visit you. If you love him then work hard at it and make the best of a bad situation.
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