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writes: Dear CupidsI'm in distress!! I thought I was over my ex-bf but today I saw him with another girl and I haven't been able to stop crying ever since. He seems so happy and was holding her like he never held me. I want him so badly, how do I make him fall back in love with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): It is time to get totally realistic. You are young. This relationship did not work out. There is someone great for you out there now. Your chances of finding him are cut down if you keep thinking about your ex. He is the new girlfriends problem now...he did not see you were great...move on and meet someone who will see it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): I know it really hurts to see someone you love with another girl, but if he is with someone else there is not much you can do except stay in touch with a nice note or a card to let him know you still would welcome him back....you don't want to call and sell him on you, or beg or plead or even say you miss him or if he misses you because this is pressure that he won't respond to....let him see you out with a new man if you can, even if you have to use a prop guy, a friend of a friend, some say tactics don't work but they do if you really want him back.
Just be sure of what it is you want, because maybe it is a good thing you are broken up....if there are things that you were doing that damaged the relationship and caused the break up, you may want to change those things and let him know about it, it all depends on what happened between the two of you....
Buy, don't stop enjoying life, get out there and date others and make friends and be active, you will feel better and you will meet someone new you may like even more than him.....time heals all wounds it really does!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): Sorry to hear that you aren't over your ex-bf! I was also in the same boat as you are right now. I didn't even think I would ever feel happy again...friends told me that I will find another. I was thinking that they didn't know what they were talking about; they didn't know the feelings that I had...I thought to myself how can I even think of another guy!!! But I have to tell you, my friends were right on. I did find another, and is MORE wonderful than my ex could EVER be!!!
I know that it hurts right now, but it will get better for you!! Don't do anything that you will get regret later. Do something for You..like join a gym, if you are artistic, paint a picture...do something that is positive that will make you feel good!! Then it will all fall into place for you.
Now when I see my ex with another girl I actually thought How did I ever fall for than creep! I am so glad that I split from him!! I am a much better person for that!!
I hope that everything goes good for you....please let everyone know what happens, ok? Hugs for you!!!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 Firstly why is this guy your ex? Did he break up with you or vice versa?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): Oh no! So sorry you are still hurting over this break-up. How long has it been since things ended?
You tell us he seems to be very happy with his new girlfriend. Unfortunately, no matter how badly you want him back, there is not anything you can do to make in fall back in love with you. He is a free agent.
What you CAN do is to continue on with your life, doing the things you enjoy and, when you're ready to, seeing what other men are "out there" to date casually and to if any of them turns into someone you can date more seriously.....but important to enjoy your own company, you know, as well as that of friends and family!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006):
First soberly decided if you really want him back.
Then it depends on how the break up went.
Generally guys will forget the bad parts quickly. You need to keep the positive associations open with some infrequent contact (like 1 per month max). Like send him cookies you bake. And keep yourself in shape. If things open up for him, he may contact you again in a few months.
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