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I refused to get an abortion and he started hating me.

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Question - (12 February 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 13 February 2009)
A female Australia age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi i'm 8 months pregnant and the father doesn't want anything to do with the child. we were together until i found out i was pregnant. Because i refused to get an abortion he started hating me. we still catch up about once a fortnight but he's only nice to me until we have sex then he tells me to leave, which upsets me.he has one half custody of his daughter and half custody of his daughters sister which isn't his. My unborn child is a boy. i dont wont my son to have no dad. i already have a 7 yr old girl, which her father takes little interest in but that doesn't bother me. but i really think boys need their dads. how can i make this man love me again?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009):

hi my sister was going through the same ordeal as you when she told her boyfriend she was pregnant it was very early and he then rejected her calls and never got in contact with her when her little boy was born she never bothered to phone him as he must have changed his number now her little boy is 3 and last year a private detective came to her house as the babys dad was trying to get in contact but you know what my sister said to the detective tell him to never get in contact as he never bothered with him when i was pregnant or when he was born so its up to your babys father to decide if he wants to see the baby or never to see him because when your baby starts to get older belive me he will want to be a part of the babys life hope this helps

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009):

I dont think you can make this man love you again. He is a jerk and a user. He only visits you when he wants sex, well stop having sex with him. He hates you and his unborn son, so do you really think it will get better when the child is born? I honestly dont think so. I agree that children need a father figure, but he is not much of a father figure to his children at the moment and I suspect that having another child [your son] will cramp his style and his freedom. Rather make plans for yourself and your children and exclude him. This man is not the only man out there!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009):

You can't make a man love you. You don't need him you can be a successful parent without the dad yes it is ideal to have two parents but if he does not wnat the baby it is his loss. Women are constantly getting hurt by men don't worry about him just do what is right for you and your baby boy. I'm sorry that you have to go through this it seems so unfair. We have to go through the burden of child bearing and raising the child, yet they don't have to do anything but get pleasure for if we are lucky an hour. Then they can leave and not take a second look.

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