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female
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30-35,
*ovinggirl
writes:Hi all.Me and my boyfriend fell out a few days ago and are barely talking. It's absolutely killing me. Last night he told me it was over but still continued to text me a couple of times that night. I left him to it until this morning when I sent him an email from work asking if I could have another chance. He replied that he didn't want to talk about it over work email, which is fair enough. We fell out about me apparently 'hassling him' via text, as hes been a bit down in the dumps recently and I just wanted to know he was ok. Apparently he just wants space and for me to give him time to get back to normal. It's completely messing with my head, he'll text me when it suits him but if I text him, he'll either not reply, reply with one word or go off on one about me nagging him?!I really need to know where I stand, I need to know if we're still together and he wants to make another go of it. But how am I supposed to find this out when he doesn't seem to want to talk to me?I expect the answers i'll get off you lovely people are just wait for him to contact you. But it's so hard. I could be out there having a great time, possible meeting other guys, but instead i'm getting upset over some guy who doesn't seem to know what he wants :(I'm in turmoil, I just want to have things back to how they were :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): From personal experience, the best you can do is wait it out, but not to the extent of sitting by the phone. I suggest trying to do something to occupy your mind. You say that you could be "going out and meeting other guys" but that's really not the approach you should be taking at this stage, that would suggest that this relationship isn't as important as you would percieve it to be which in turn would mean your heart would heal quickly.
Couples fight sometimes; just lay off and let him think for himselve, he'll appreciate the space if you have been "hassling" him as he quite bluntly put.
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