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writes:Hey guys i really need some help, im 19 years old and have hada lot of shit in my life.last year was my first year in college and towards the end of the year i realised i had feelings for my housemate, a guy ive known for seven years and never realised what a good guy he was. I knew he might have fancied me a little but he has a girlfriend for 2 years. She is not very goodlooking and very desperate to hang onto him. He quickly picked up on the fact i liked him and we became closer. He told me i was pretty and stuff, when we were out together he was hugging and kissing me dancing more with me than anyone else and pinching my thigh under the table. Now even though we dont live in the same house i still want to be with him, ive fancied him for over 6 months. His girlfriend is still in school and she is absolutely paranoid, she rings him about twenty times every single day to see what hes doing! I really dont want to be caught in the trap of unrequited love and i dont want to scare him by telling him i like him, in fact i love him and i need to do something, He is a great guy and there are few like him.If i had a relationship with someone else it would just feel halfhearted. I think he is trapped in the relationship he is in but at the same time maybe he wants a relationship and a casual thing i dont know. I know he has kissed one other girl but she said he regretted it deeply. i WANT TO BE WITH HIM, WHAT CAN I DO?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): Honestly,you need to tell him how you feel. For all he knows, you dont like him and you lead him on. I think your friendship with him needs to grow since its been so long. He obviously has shown somewhat interest in you, i think you need to straight up tell him how you feel. It is the only way. It doesnt matter if he has a girlfriend...trust me chances are he is not happy. Look hot, make plans and make effort to see him. When the moment feels right, tell him! You dont have to worry about looking bad or anything, just tell him so you at least know you tried and know that you arent living your life in curiousity. You do your thing girl and keep us updated!
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reader, hello1 +, writes (28 December 2007):
 He has a g/f, how would you feel if you had a b/f and a girl tried to creep up on him? I bet you wouldn't like it. If he didn't like his g/f, he wouldn't be with her. Try finding an single guy who you connect with, seems more of a lust thing between you two.
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (28 December 2007):
 You make like this guy but he is in a relationship with someone else. As for him being trapped in this relationship he can always walk away if he wishes to...
Leave him and his girlfriend alone to sort things out. If he wants to be with you then he should do the decent thing and end his relationship with her first, if he doesn't and gets involved with you then he is just a selfish cad who wants a bit on the side. Also remember if someone cheats on their partner once, chances are they will do it to any subsequent partners.As for his girlfriend being paranoid and ringing him, she is actually entitled to ring her own boyfriend whether you like it or not.
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