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writes:I am currently 20...attending college in Southern California while the girl I am interested in, who also had been a good friend since high school is attending college in northern California. While I have always had genuine feelings for her and know in fact that there was a time in high school that she was interested in me, we have had a nice friendship. I sort of "spilled the beans" with an email two months ago that somewhat stated my feelings but pretty unclearly. I recently gave her flowers when she was in town and wrote a lightly sappy card as well, but nothing heavy or obsessive... So at this point, about 2 or 3 years removed from high school, both having gone through and ended relationships, and with a few months of summer soon ahead, would it be safe to ask her out? I have made subtle and not so subtle signals like that email...and while she has not asked about my feelings when we talk on the phone or anything like that, she really loved the flowers and has not given me any actual indication she is upset or disapproves of what I'm doing. My only fear is that she is leading me to telling her straight away only to say no then instead of now because she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. Is she shy...uninterested...or should I give asking her out in the summer a try anyway? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): ok,for starters,you sound waaaay to uptight man. you need to loosen up a little.secondly, if you truly like her you should set up times to hang out,have dinner,lunch or something. try to figure out what kind of guy she likes,ask her about her previous relationships.But dont be too suddle you dont want to just blab out that your in love with her,get what i mean? and when she said she loves the flowers thats usually a good sign that she thinks your sweet. So dont worry too much about that.good luck
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reader, mitch  +, writes (3 April 2007):
Yes give it a go! Happyness comes at a risk, and you've got to take that risk. Just go for it, you'll regret never asking her out if you let the opportunity pass and you both lose contact a far sight more than just being friends and also drifting apart.
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