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writes: I'm sure this question has been posted millions of times... but I need to ask so... here I go:I started liking a teacher about January (when he was no longer my teacher). I would go in his room with friends and flirt with him everyday and laugh about stupid things. He seemed to flirt back finding little moments to touch me for as little as possible. I liked to push the boundaries a lot with him. Well I've turned 18 and have graduated since then... and well I am still very interested in him. I call him all the time and he calls me, I've even been to his house before and had moments were it was just me and him (god I wanted to kiss him). And well I've been holding back afraid of showing too much interest because I don't know if what I want to do is legal or not... Is it? I mean I have graduated and I am 18... it is a huge age difference and I'm not expecting an actual relationship with the man... although we seem to have a very close relationship already... we tell each other everything! How wrong would it be if we got involved? He has a girlfriend so don't know how involved he'd want to get anyway...He called me hot, I think he likes me...How likely is it that we could get involved?sorry for all the questions that are probably stupid =(thanx for whatever answers u can provide me with!
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (10 July 2006):
 Hey there petal,
They are not stupid questions at all, so promise me that you won't think you're stupid for asking them... you are confused, and rightly so because you have an infatuation with a man who is wrong in so many ways, but the heart knows no limits or boundaries so doesn't filter out what you feel for someone is they are wrong for you or not!
Okay. So. He isn't your teacher anymore BUT he is involved with someone. Why, if he is happy in his current relationship, would he be inviting you to his house, calling you etc? Are you sure he just doesn't spend time with you because he sees you as a friend and nothing more?
I don't mean to sound harsh or anything babe, but it sounds to me like this is a case of 'wanting what you can't have'. He has called you 'hot' and seems to be taking an interest in you BUT! he is involved with someone and looks like he is just stringing you along with no intention of taking anything further with you. If you aren't expecting an actual relationship - what are you expecting? Sex with no strings? If he was to want that, on the side of his current relationship, so an affair basically, what would you say to that?
I think you should stay clear of this and let him be. He is with someone else. But if you can't do that, then have a chat to him and find out if he does want anything more from you... but don't get your hopes up! Keep me posted! xxx
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