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I really like him but I don't want to be the rebound girl!

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Question - (14 May 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 16 May 2010)
A female France age 30-35, *issyd writes:

Hi i'm a student and i'm 22.

I met this guy 2 years ago. Last year we were in the same section in college.

We started to hang out and we clicked together, there was chemistry. we like the same things, and wants the same thing, we laugh all the time.

I felt like he was acting like a little bit more than a friend would. Picking me up, and driving me back, saying "you know i think about you, the future, and how i'd like to have a nicest car, get married have kids...

He was asking a lot about me, and i said how i'd see my future, and how i'd like to be settled and have kids, but with a guy who will be financially stable, and have a real job... and talking about things i loved like when i was younger and i was riding motorcycle behind my friends...

The thing is he had a girlfriend back then.

this year we are not in college together. so we stay in touch. And he told me he pass his motorcycle driving licence, he made driving instructor training school to have a decent job and make money, he sold his old car.

It's weird because it's kinda like he made everything that i told him would make me happy.

A week ago i told a friend of us 2, that we had a thing last year. I hadn't told her cause she was friend with him and she told me he hadn't told her.

The day after that he broke up with his girlfriend. I'm sure it's not a coincidence.

He keeps telling me that he's single i don't know if it's his way to trying to make a move.

He's doing everything so we can be to college together again in the fall.

I think i like him and it would feel great to be with someone who cares about me and proves it like he did. But i don't want to be the rebound girl.

I don't know what to do? Is it some kind of friendship?

if it's not should i let him get over his ex girlfriend? and if i should make a move how should i do that? i never had to ask a guy out before.

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A male reader, riv United States +, writes (16 May 2010):

What's wrong with being the rebound girl exactly ?

The issue is more - as at the present day , with neither of you in an ongoing relationship, what do you each have to offer one another ?

What's wrong with a trial relationship ( whether open to other encounters or not, as you agree ) to see how things go ?

Worst case it doesn't work out and you are no worse off than at present : not in a relationship with him or anyone else.

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