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writes:Dear Cupid...OK this probably sounds stupid, but there's a girl at school I have a mad crush on and want to ask her out badly... I've spent loads of time with her already but I don't know whether to tell her I like her first (as in say 'I really fancy you; just letting you know' or something like that maybe not that obvious or upfront.) If I tell her will she back off or does it make it better?
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reader, Jackie +, writes (3 November 2005):
The best way to start a relationship you want, is to always be honest about your feelings, and telling some one you like them is the first and most important first step! Go ahead, look for the signs if she likes you, like, calling you and hanging on you, or a little flrity, maybe even eyeing you when you're near her, the littlest things can mean some big emotions! Always go with the flow and don't let anything like fear and doubt get in your way to true happiness! I wish the best for you!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (3 November 2005):
 I'd advise against coming straight out and saying "I fancy you" to her face, as a way of introducing yourself.
For one thing, it's easy to get nervous, stumble over your prepared words, and have it end up with her saying "What?" and you saying "What?" until it's like a scene out of a bad movie. For another, wearing your heart on your sleeve like that can set you up for some real heartbreak, especially if your admission gets overheard by someone else, or ends up being chewed over by the Rumour Mill at your school. Can't you just picture your worst enemy getting wind of your secret crush and sing-songing your own words back at you from across the quadrangle? That's something I've experienced, and believe me, you don't need it.
So, instead of telling her you like her, why not *show* her, by your actions? Smile at her when you see her in the hall or in class. Make your eye contact linger just a second longer than you have to. Think about how attractive she is when you see her and your expression will convey everything in your mind. She'll love it, I promise.
After a day or two, just go up and introduce yourself - even if she knows your name. It never hurts and it gives you a place to start. Ask her if she'd like to go out for a coffee, or to study with you. Something low key, so neither of you feels pressured.
Briefly put, your actions will say much more to her than your words ever could.
I'm sure you'll go great. Don't be shy...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2005): You should really tell her because she might fancy you and be to shy to say. There is a downside though, if she doesn't fancy you you will feel rejected but she may just give it a go anyway
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reader, katekooeee +, writes (2 November 2005):
It doesnt sound stupid at all! This girl obviously enjoys your company, if she did not then she wouldnt invest so much of her time with you. The dilema your facing could indeed be tackled first, you feel that you need to know how she feels now but she will know you fancy her if you
Ask her out on an evening 'do you fancy doing someting tonight' and take her to the cinema and see how it goes/ Pay her a few compliments and see how she responds.
There would be no harm in just telling her how you feel but be patient and let romance take its course!
Good luck!
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