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I proposed to my friend but she politely declined!

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Question - (15 February 2011) 13 Answers - (Newest, 21 February 2011)
A male India age 30-35, *reyhound writes:

so it began in october. the girl in my college asked for my no. and we started talking nicely. she had a boyfriend from last 4years and she loves him. they broke up soon after i started talking but were in touch daily. she always gave me signals that i am more than a friend to her.she always told me that she does not want her past now. i proposed her and she told me that she just loves my company and takes me as a friend. she is now back with her guy. he is a total jerk, always trying to control her actions. i am broken. should i move on or should i play along. i really love her. we are friends still

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A male reader, Capri2 Argentina +, writes (21 February 2011):

Right. Think that cutting any kind of contact with her is the better way of punishing her and preserving you at the same time.

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A male reader, greyhound India +, writes (21 February 2011):

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so, i should not be talking to her ever. right?

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A male reader, Capri2 Argentina +, writes (20 February 2011):

Anything that keeps you in contact with her will end up hurting you more than you are now. Even if you can get revenge at all, you will always be that one being hurt the more.

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A male reader, greyhound India +, writes (20 February 2011):

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yes, i am hurt and the way she has been avoiding me for that jerk. it is such a pain.

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A male reader, Capri2 Argentina +, writes (19 February 2011):

I don't get it. Why do you want to destroy her? Whatever that means.

Are you that hurt that you hate her now? How come you are so in love with her after five months of what, being her friend?

Move on, and try to grow up in the process.

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A male reader, greyhound India +, writes (19 February 2011):

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THANK YOU GUYS. i love taking advices but i do whatever the voices in my head telll me to do. I will destroy her.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011):

stand in her place see how she is thinking of you, as you said I am looking for relationship(romance) not for marriage, do you think she don't imagine this? she had!that is why she is not trusting either even if you promise for trust she will hate you more than him after realizing that you have promised falsely.

In fact one thing is true as of now she is trusting him more than you that is why she is unable to leave him completely even though he is jerk. So don't play with someone for romance and be serious in life and move on from her

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A male reader, Capri2 Argentina +, writes (15 February 2011):

If you want this girl for a relationship, don't be her friend. Move on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011):

Ah ok, sorry OP but your post wasn't very clear. I stand by my word though, you need to move on.

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A male reader, greyhound India +, writes (15 February 2011):

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i didnt proposed for marriage. i proposed for a relationship. n she said that she drew out a tarot card and the reader told her that i will be her soulmate

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A male reader, greyhound India +, writes (15 February 2011):

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i didnt proposed for marriage. i proposed for a relationship.

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A female reader, TEM United States +, writes (15 February 2011):

TEM agony auntI'm not sure what it is that you would be playing along with. You would continue to play along at being her friend? After she shot down your marriage proposal?

You can't be friends with someone for whom you have romantic feelings. It hurts when you love someone and they don't love you back. If you continue as friends, I think you would just be setting yourself up for more pain.

My advice is to move on. Date another girl. There are probably any number of young women that would love to be your girlfriend. You need to get your mind off this girl. She is not the one for you.

Even though you see her boyfriend as a total jerk, he's the one she's chosen. Do not wait around with the hope that she will fall in love with you, if, and when, things don't work out with her boyfriend. A gentle reminder - you have already tried that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011):

You need to move on. Seriously. You weren't even dating yet you proposed marriage?

Sorry but if this guys a jerk then that's her mistake to make.

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