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writes:Hey all.So i have been having sex with this girl for almost a year now. We dont do it very often and in fact for a while I used to get the im too tired or not in the mood routine all the time. She never seemed to get horny, the few time she said she did, just so happened to be the few time I was actually a good student and was at tutoring or group projects. i discovered that part of the problem was that she had never experimented with herself and her last BF was an asshole who used to just do it and never care about her and it often hurt her cus he wouldn't ease in( she is very tight ). So I always made sure to use lots of lube and a non latex condom cus after some in house testing we determined that she may have a minor allergy to latex. I also convinced her to see a doctor cus the pain she experienced turned out to not be all mental. Now after all this she still refused to try to touch herself and figure out what feels good. And still never seemed to get horny. I gave her long massages, flowers, nice dates, her favorite wine that she can only get when she goes back to japan or if I can find a specialty Asian food store (its not easy, especially where im located), even spent a small fortune on really high quality sexy comfortable lingerie so she c ould feel sexy and beautiful. All this did work, sex was just rare and so so. Finally I broke it off with her for other life goal reasons, not intimate reasons. However, we remained friends. We both got really dunk one night at a party and ended up having the most amazing sex ever. The next morning after sobering up i was feeling like i did something wrong but she said that she really liked it and found it really hot and a turn on. I guess our relationship was the issue. Who would have thunk that?!?! Any ways, we agreed to have a no strings no emotions open relationship till either of us meet someone. I know that these things can get complicated but i plan to terminate ti right away if either of us grow re-attached to each other. The sex now is really great and she is having a great time and trying new things that she wouldn't before. The issue is that i never finish. before or after we broke up. I find that im not that sensitive down there during sex so since no condom is out of the question, i find that there ultra sensitive or super thin one feel perty good. I still cant go tho. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): Stop masturbating. It'll work, trust me.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (15 December 2010):
 Very normal, more than one would think. My bf had a hard time finishing the first few times that we had sex, he would just go on and on and on like the frickin energizer bunny. So I made it my mission to turn him on and stimulate him to the point of where he couldn't hold off. Your gf and you should experiment with different touches and different positions until you find the right one that will stimulate you both so you can both reach orgasm.
It might take a while, but hey, practice is always fun. If it becomes a really big issue, consider talking to a medical professsional about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt feels good when i masturbate and i finish. often quite quickly. I enjoy sex and it often feels very good and i want to finish and feel comfortable with her. My body just seems to want to last forever and never go. I like when she takes charge and get on top or lets me take her doggie, but i have only finished less than a handful of times. I like doggie, it just really gets me going and have hinted that i would like to try anal, but she is dead set against that even tho i promise to stop if it hurts and even though i have researched how to do it. I like oral, but she tends to scrap with her teeth and i try to politely tell her to be careful and she gets tired very fast so oral and her on top lasts very short.
I guess this wouldnt be such a problem if it didnt happen every time or if she didnt get off either but my record is going for 2+ hrs without even a drop of precum, her finishing 3 times on me and once during foreplay and then finally her falling asleep with my penis in her mouth and trembling knees from the sex as she tried to finish me in one last hora. I feel like shit after wards and generally geta huge case of blue balls the next morning if i dont finish myself. I have no problem sometimes finishing myself, but a few times from sex would be nice. I try not to masturbate often cus when we have sex i want to be makesure that the feelings are not being overcome by previous feeling from masturbating.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (14 December 2010):
Do you get off when you masturbate? What factors cause you to be unable to get off?
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