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*xshaunaxx
writes:I met this one guy about 2 months ago and there was an immediate attraction. we started hanging out and I started to like him more and more. oh yea, I'm 15 and he's 17. we both like each other but we aren't going out because he is having a tough time with things and he has been really stressed out. (he had an EXTREMELY rough childhood and its coming back to bite him) so he has been staying at my house because he has been pretty much homeless. and let's just say we have really getting to know each other on a deeper level. (no sex though. we have talked about it but I said I'm not quite ready for that yet.) oh yea, I'm a virgin, and it just so happens that he is a sex addict. (just my luck...) but he has not pressured me or anything. and he makes me feel great about myself, which is awesome because I have an extremely low self esteem. he tells me I'm beautiful and stuff like that.. =]and I never want to be away from him. he's visiting his family right now so I haven't seen him in about a week, so I have really been missing him. but everytime he calls, I have a huge smile as I talk to him. and we've been talking for hours and hours every night. (and neither of us really like talking on the phone) just talking to him is the highllight of my day but basically, I'm kinda skeptical, but I think I'm in love with him. and i think I want to have sex too. (not immediately, but after we talk about it and I could get on birth control because I to NOT want to have a baby yet.)I just feel so different around him. I don't have to put in an act, I can just be myself.so I just want to know:-could I possibly be in love?-is it wrong to do stuff with him even though we aren't a couple?PS- sry if this is a little long or confusing... =/
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reader, xxshaunaxx +, writes (22 January 2008):
xxshaunaxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank yall for the advice...
just giving yall an update:
he is still with his family and will probably be there for a few more weeks. but we have been talking every night for at leat 2 to 3 hours. so basically things are going great! still miss him though...
thanks again for the advice! more updates later!
XOshaunaOX
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reader, iloveyou  +, writes (18 January 2008):
It does sound as if you have deep feelings for this boy and it sounds like he feels the same about you. An I don't want to sound old and boring here, but when you are young you can fall in love very quickly but also get hurt easily so I advise that you take things slowly and make sure that you're feelings for each other are real, because you both seem very close and it would be a shame to lose that relationship.
I personally don't think that it is wrong to do things together if you are not a couple, but remember you are under age and he is over age so he could get into serious trouble, so again it would maybe be best to lay off other activities until you are in a relationship and 16 years old.
All the best
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reader, bleh222 +, writes (18 January 2008):
 uhhm, you could just have really strong feelings. but please don't do stuff with him if you're not together because he could be saying all that stuff just to get in your pants seeing as he's a sex addict. talk to him about it though.. ask him if he wants a relationship. if he doesn't want to be with you he's deffinetly using you.
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