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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:We break up for months and there isn't any contact since then.Days ago, she called, saying she miss me. The next day, I called her, she said she miss me again. Before we end the conversation, she said tomorrow she is going to call.She never call. I thought she is busy. Waited for days, no call either. I decided to call her again.Few days passed, she hasn't initiate any conversation. Yesterday, we chat awhile. I called again today. Twice, she doesn't pick up and no call back either.I think, if we really miss someone or want to be together again, it doesn't matter how busy we are, we will think of that person and most probably call. Do you agree?What do you think about this situation? Could it be she miss me as friend? I am feeling miserable here because things that she said give me hope but from her action I don't think so.One of the reason we break up is because of trust issue. It happens few times that she said the phone call was accidentally answered.I don't think it can be accidentally answered few times in a row right? And there is one time, I keep hello hello, I hear the "lovey dovey" voices then hang up.It is not the first time we break up. Months later, she will somehow "appear" then when my feeling return, she do the same thing again.I also feel she is quite childish to play this kind of game. We are both 30+.Advice please. I am planning to change number and also emails. I am tired of getting hurt again and again.Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): Cut all ties now, you can't heal otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): I know exactly how you feel. I am in the same situation now, it sucks big time right? Having been okay without your ex then suddenly she's back and you revive your feelings then she's gone..just a cycle.
To be honest, I don't know what to tell you but just to let you know you are not alone. It's very difficult if we have feelings for another person. We cannot do the right things even if we know it so well that it is right to ignore or move on. Our feelings are like chains that prevent us from moving on.
One day, you will get really really tired going on in this cycle that you yourself will finally say "this is it, I am done. I give up!". It is easier said than done but why not giving up this time now? Changing your number or all contact details she knows of you is a good way to start.
Let us both think we cannot take this crap from these people anymore and it's time to dump them....it is for our own good.
Good luck and god bless...
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reader, OmShantih  +, writes (10 October 2009):
 I would change your phone and emails.
start afresh, you deserve better!
Love and Light
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