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51-59,
*starr
writes:I am in a relationship with a woman whom i love dearly i moved to another city 2 hours away from all i know, to be with her. She has 2 teenage children and states she cant move i have tried not to be homesick but i miss my children and grandchildren and i am all alone in this town. I have talked with her with no change in her decision and now i feel i need to leave due to my unhappiness. I dont know anyone here and i can not financially afford to travel for family visitations due to my recent disability. I tried to make it work for 4 years but i just cant do it anymore. I love this woman so much my heart breaks thinking about leaving. i dont want to live without her but i cant stay in this little town with no friends or social life. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, pstarr +, writes (26 January 2012):
pstarr is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni want to thank the anyomonus guy who gave me advice thank you thank you so much all persons count
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2012): move back, you will be happier, sounds like her way or the highway - you deserve more
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reader, pstarr +, writes (25 January 2012):
pstarr is verified as being by the original poster of the questionkatiekate thank you for your reply, yes she does know how unhappy i am i have been telling her for about 2 yrs. we lived with each other until about 6 months ago and i had to move out due to huge differences in the way we lived (cleaning ect. i am a very neat person and she is the opposite) so since i moved out my situation has become more and more lonely. I have to fight to get her to come over(i live 5 blocks away) she states its because she works and has kids, we never go out, we never see other people and although i know she is a mother there is no personal time for us i am always fighting for time which causes some resentment for the kids and i. But she is fully aware of my wants and needs, there is always a reason why and i usually get the distinct impression it wouldnt matter either way. Her only legitamate gripe is that i drink and she does not. so even though i have next to stopped drinking, those few occasions i do it always starts an argument and i end up being the idiot drunk. I have tried to stay away when i do stay at home its my only source of the slightest bit of pleasure. So thats where i stand. Hope you have some more advice it would be appreciated. thank you
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reader, katiekate +, writes (25 January 2012):
 My only advice is that life is short and it should be a happy one! You sound miserable. :( Just decide which is more important: being happy or being with this woman? She doesn't sound very concerned with what you need and want. Does she know how unhappy you are?
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