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writes:i made my ex a friend. he seems not too enthusiastic about it, even when he had begged for it for a long time.i thout i loved him so much when he was gone, but now that he is back in my life am not too sure about it. neither is he...though he sends me messages now and then.he's not in a relationship and neither am i...i know i love him and he loves him. but we do seem to want more than that, all change our lives again for us to fit. i get nervous and have bad feeling when i get to know his seeing someone else. i cry when i think about all the good times we had..i miss him yet i dont miss him.should i take it one day at a time? because for all i know i can only have him as my boyfriend or nothing at all
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reader, goldensunnystar +, writes (24 March 2011):
Remember he is your ex for a reason. If being friends is causing you distress it may be possible you may need to stop communicating for a few months to get over the break up. Think to your self. “if my ex started dating someone right now would it bother me?”. If the idea is painful you have not fully healed not are you over the past relationship. This could mean right now your not ready to be a friend. Make sure you are hanging out with your friends and family. Try to find a new hobby or another job to help occupy your time. You are very important and you need to look out for your best interest. Right now it may feel like an end but it is just the begining for something else if you can heal and move on.
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reader, Heisenberg +, writes (24 March 2011):
If it's a friendship that you both are attempting, it would be best to focus in the now, and limit reminiscing as much as possible. We have a tendency to put a much better spin on memories.
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