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writes:Recently,I put a dating ad in the newspaper, and this girl replied who I really seem to like. However there's quite a big age gap. Im 29 and she is only 21.I've not had a girlfriend for 5 years now and have only really had one real relationship in my life so I’m not used to having a girl friend, so all this is very exciting for me. Although we've never met, we've spoke on the phone, have been texting eachother constantly and I have seen her pics. I'm just so excited about meeting her and am fantasising if what it will be like to go out with eachother. Although, I also realise that this cant be healthy and am concerned about my excitement, and fear any disappointment if the feelings aren’t the same when we do meet.My other concern is our age gap. Although she seems very mature for her age I’m at the stage of my life where I'm quite ready to settle down, but imagine she is too young for all that and would want to experiment with several relationships before settling, which I wouldn’t blame her for.So it would be much appreciate if any of you guys could me any advise on these concerns?Many ThanksKeith
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reader, curious-borg  +, writes (14 April 2011):
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi there Keith,
Well I would like to say first what a lovely guy you sound and to ask for advice is lovely as you want everything to work out with this girl don't you?
Your excited to meet her and scared she may not feel the same well let me tell you something babes she is just as worried about this as you are if she wasn't she would not have kept in contact with you via the phone and texting...
The age gap is not a problem at all darling its only 8 years she isn't bothered about it so why should you be?
Okay she may not want to settle down straight away but hey you have to date first, enjoy each others company, get to know one another, then who knows where it may lead....
Just enjoy meeting her getting to know her no presures, I am sure it will turn out just fine so STOP worrying and enjoy....
At the age of 21 I had two daughters and was married so give it time, bless ya
Love Donna xx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Most of these concerns you have are totally natural, due to the fact you have not met.
The age gap is only going to be a problem if you are not happy with it and you make it a problem.
You are both consenting adults and she obviously does not have a problem with it.
Just because she is that age it does not mean to say ahe is not ready to settle down, some girls just are not into playing the field i myself was married with one child by this age.
I don't think you fantasising about her and what might be is unhealthy at all i think all of us do that at some point.
Personally i think if you like her then don't have too many expectations just go and enjoy your date and see how things go.
Take care.xx.
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