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writes:Hello all,I have a question to ask as a bi woman.I am a mostly straight woman with bi tendencies, and has had flings with other women in the past, and a relastionship with one that has been on and off for the past 9 years. I am now in a serious relastionship with a lovely man that I really love, and would like to marry. My ex girlfriend knows this, and has now and wants to see me next week. I really wanted to see her last year, ( this was before I met him) but she said that she was not ready and was still hurting over our break up, and she was angry at me. I wanted to see her next week, but do not want to cheat on this guy, and feel that i would be tempted if she came over. I have texted her and told her not to come because it wouldn;t be fair on him, andI canot resist her, but am feeling sad that I have had to let it go. My probelem is this - I am always going to have feeings for other women, and knowing that if/ when I settle with this guy there is no going back to it makes me feel sad,and worried for my future with him, as i know my feelings for other women will not go away. I love him so much it hurts, but do not know how to deal with my bi feelings that arise now and then, because the thought of never being wth a woman ever again is very difficlut for me, as it is part of my nature. I really don;t want to cheat on this guy. Can anyone advuse me on how to cope with these feelings as a bi person? as I do not want to lose him. ever, but worry about what the future may hold for me as far as my sexuality is concerned. He does not know I'm bi, and I am not going to tell him, as I do not want to worry him. Does it mean I am just not ready to settle down that I even considered seeing my ex girlfriend? Please help!! Thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey mr, Thats a really cool answer, you are right. That lifestly IS truly over if get maaried. ,., I need to accept that . Thank you so much. i feel alot clearer now
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): Your in a tough situation but you put yourself in it. You need to be honest with your boyfriend and tell him your bi. Why would you not be true to who you really are? How would you feel if he was secretly bi? I think you need to hold off on any marriage plans. However your in a very unique position as a woman. You said that you really love your partner but you still want to sleep with other women because it's in your nature. Well guess what? That's how just about every married man in the world feels too. But when you get married that lifestyle is over. You have three options: 1) tell him your bi and hope for the best. 2) keep your secret and hope for the best 3)leave the man of your dreams because your not sure you can be faithful. Good luck, I hope you figure out what's best.
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